Losing a child
QUESTION: Masters, my daughter died last year. A medium told me that I lost a child in a previous life as well. Why did I choose to come back to this life only to lose a child yet again? Wasn’t once enough? Did I not learn enough about grief, loss and pain the first time? Was this a contract made between my daughter and I before birth? If so, for what purpose? ~Luci, Australia
ANSWER: When you choose a life lesson there are many aspects relating to it. When you lost the child in your former life you shut yourself down completely, not working with the grief, abandonment, guilt, and self-pity. Shortly after the event you decided to join her at Home through suicide. Once there, you realized you had missed the opportunity to learn about those characteristics as you had wanted, and you chose to try to do it again – hence your current life.
You and your daughter did agree that she would be the soul to assist you in a second attempt to understand these horrific emotions. She had wanted to come for a shortened life and this fit perfectly into her plans. A soul’s agreements are generally centered around setting up a stage to be able to face what they wish to experience.
An example of once not being enough can be seen in women who marry an abuser. They finally realize they don’t have to put up with the abuse and divorce him. The only thing they know is that type of relationship, because they don’t look into any other, and end up marrying an abuser a second time. They may even repeat this a third or fourth time because they are convinced this is what marriage is all about.
When a soul is working on lessons chosen for a particular lifetime, if they don’t give themselves time to dig into the facts and try to understand their options, they will put themselves right back into the same set of facts so they might complete the chosen learning process.
Analyze the feelings that have arisen in your life. Understand that both of you are eternal souls and will always meet on the spiritual plane. Allow yourself to feel the grief, sense of abandonment, and guilt. Connect it to other factors in this and past lives so that you might fully understand how you can shape the experience to gain wisdom about this human existence.
And don’t forget to talk to your daughter, either directly or through your guides. She will be waiting for you when you have finished this life.