Self-justification
QUESTION: Masters, I think about separating from my husband, I believe our mission is over. We have a good coexistence, he says he loves me, but I do not believe it very much. Love exists, but not as husband and wife. We have twins, who I believe are highly evolved spirits and will not suffer from this separation, for they are very attached to me. I feel a great love for someone else, I feel that we know each other from other life. From the first time I saw him I felt something for him. He is a very spiritual person, but is a little lost, I feel a lot of desire to help him, but I do not get too involved. I wonder if he feels the same way about me. Is this feeling real, do we have a mission together here or is it just physical attraction? ~Elis, Brazil
ANSWER: You are being very specific in your analysis of what you feel love is all about. Your husband loves you as a soul sharing a lifetime with him. He respects your path even though the romantic aspects have faded from your relationship. You think only of a romantic physical love which you have been craving and have now experienced for another. For this reason, you have convinced yourself that your mission with your husband is finished.
Your rationalization has extended to thinking it won’t matter to the children if you leave their father because they are more attached to you. Yes, they are highly evolved and can sense the light has gone out between their parents, but they still love their father and will suffer the pain which will come to him when you leave.
Part of the draw towards this new man is the fact that he needs assistance. Your husband does not depend on you for his emotional needs because he is balanced while your new interest is not. You need to have someone need you. Both your twins and their father can survive on their own; this new one cannot.
You have no mission or prior agreement with the new person. Your physical attraction to him is the only motivating factor for you. He is a user and a player. He will tell you what you want to hear so that he can take advantage of your good nature. He does not love you as you think you do him.
You are correct that it may be time for you to move on from your current situation in order to learn more about life and yourself, but if you are going to do this, be sure of why you are doing it. Don’t justify your physical reactions to another by using spiritual plans and meanings. Examine your inner feelings and what you seek to get from the encounter. You will find sex alone will not sustain you for long.