Who is in charge?
QUESTION: Masters my husband and I had a very tumultuous relationship but we were on the way to perhaps having a breakthrough. He passed away tragically and very traumatically 3 months ago. I feel that being with him in this marriage was the ultimate purpose in my life. Now, I feel truly adrift and wonder what happens when something like this happens. A psychic told me my husband was not ‘scheduled’ to go now but that I should give this grieving some time and I will be ok. Can I end this life? Can our lives be ended if our original purpose is not completed through someone else’s actions? ~Su, Singapore
ANSWER: Each soul is in charge of their own life. They have complete freedom of choice to decide when to come, when to leave, and what they wish to experience. They can change their mind during the lifetime and move things around to have different experiences than originally planned, but the actions of another do not influence the things they desire to do unless they consent to change their mind.
The “time” a soul transitions back to spirit form is determined by them alone. They don’t leave too early or too late for their spiritual purpose. What the human mind states is the desire of the human ego, which is not privy to the spiritual journey of that soul. So the human may be saying “I’m not ready to go,” while the soul says “this is where I want to leave so that I can complete the lessons and agreements I made prior to coming.”
You and your husband had an agreement to be lesson givers for each other. You also agreed that at some point in your marriage he would abruptly leave so that you would have time to explore your own reasons for being here without considering that you have to be a part of a couple. You have spent so much time concerned only about your marriage that the rest of life, and all its possibilities, never came into your awareness.
As we have said, a soul has total control of their life and they can leave when they want. Most people don’t even recognize that they are souls having a spiritual human journey, so they are not cognizant of lessons and their status of completion. Examine what is going on around you, because you will draw to yourself things you desire to experience. You have plenty more you wished to do, but you are in the driver’s seat. Staying or leaving is up to you.