Few relationships involve contracts
QUESTION: Masters I met the person I’m in love with in college. From the beginning we felt a strong connection and know each other very well. We had an almost relationship this year, but decided it was not the right time, because we were not achieving progress in other areas of our lives. Sometimes I feel that he will never be ready for a relationship. I would like to have a larger vision of our contract. I have trouble trusting people. ~G. P. T., Brazil
ANSWER: You do not have a contract for a relationship with this person. When it comes to engaging in romance during a human experience, rarely does the soul make a contract. The reason for this is that a contract restricts the opportunities that can enrich the lifetime. Each soul has freedom of choice to determine what they want to do and when. They may change their mind at any time and go in another direction.
Your love is very immature and always wants someone to tell him what to do and how to do it. That is one of the reasons that he is not progressing with his lessons and lifework in this incarnation. He never chooses to take responsibility for the few decisions that he does make on his own. It is much easier to always blame someone else – whoever has urged a certain decision – for the matter not turning out as he wanted it to.
His progress is non-existent at this time and may never change. He is not a sharer but rather selfish in his plans. You will not be able to get him to commit to any relationship where you have a say in how it goes. He wants total control. If this is how you see spending the rest of your life, then wait around until he can make a decision. He also takes energy away from you when you are together so that you feel tired and confused. It is a part of his makeup to live off the energy of others since it is so easy.
It is time to ask yourself what you see for a future professionally, socially, and spiritually. Learn to seek out your feelings about a situation and see if it is loving and comfortable. If a scenario is one-sided and not sharing, you will not have a say in the relationship. Honor your strengths. Do only what makes you feel marvelous. Bring to yourself that which you desire; some things come to you for you to determine that they are not what will enhance your life’s journey. Don’t be afraid to look elsewhere.