Free love, when he wants it
QUESTION: Masters, I finished a relationship of two years because of moral divergences. I’m sure that I love her, but I also want to get intimate and have sex with other women and even have more than one mate at a time. I never wanted to abandon her permanently. I believe that it is an important lesson. She does not love me unconditionally to be my mate and allow me the freedom to the lessons that I want? I am demanding too much of a mate? I’m not sure if I ever met a soul mate. ~Pedro, Brazil
ANSWER: Having a human sexual relationship does not require you to be with a soul mate. Most of one’s experiences in each lifetime are with non-soul mates. There are billions of souls, and only about 144 of them are from your soul group. You have not met, in a love relationship, any of your soul group; nor is that necessary to accomplish what you think you desire in this life.
Part of your question relates to a fantasy that you see yourself living. It is against almost all societal ethics. That does not mean that it cannot occur if you find consenting adults. In a spiritual journey, nothing is considered to be right or wrong but merely undertaken for the experience.
Because of the way people are raised, getting most of their beliefs about behavior from their parents, teachers, religions, and society, you will have difficulty finding someone who believes as you do. Ask yourself: If you found yourself intensely loving someone, would you be open to their taking other partners?
Not only can you not be sure if you loved that woman, because you can love another only to the extent that you love yourself, but also, you do not know what either love or self-love is. You think that having many sexual partners, your definition of love, will let you feel more love in all realms of your life. Simply, it will not. It will just leave you more confused and yearning.
You say this is all about lessons, while you ignore your primary chosen lesson of understanding human and spiritually unconditional love. Find out why you are so dissatisfied with your life. When you feel total love of this journey you are on and every aspect of it (which is complete love of self), then you will see repeated sexual experiences have nothing to do with feeling love and being loved.