Sex, love, and appropriateness
QUESTION: Masters I am conflicted about the appropriate expression of sexuality: in what circumstances it is appropriate, to what extent it is a justifiable end in itself and the correct relationship between love and sex. We are living in a time of increasing sexual freedom and whilst this seems to offer a type of guilt-free fulfilment I am also concerned that this sort of ‘easy sex’ is empty and not a valid expression of our real sexual selves. (You may note that I am struggling to express this adequately which perhaps indicates my confusion.) Partly this has arisen from a recent association with a woman (there was no sexual relationship) who has a very different attitude from mine. I am caught between despising her approach (which you may tell me I shouldn’t because that’s judgmental) and envying it because of the apparent freedom it offers. ~John, UK
ANSWER: Your confusion comes from trying to rationalize, and then justify, what you have accepted as belief systems for yourself as compared to those of society and of people who want to experience everything they know is possible while enjoying their human stay. You are an energetic soul spending a human lifetime in a body replete with physical sensors that give the soul an opportunity to gain knowledge of human sexuality.
Each soul is pure energy and has no sex such as is seen in humans – no males and no females – yet it must choose a sex in order to come to Earth. The soul has no physical devices that register a body’s orgasms or emotional highs and lows, but it can feel the reactions occurring within its body. The romantic love that some humans see as a needed element of a human relationship is merely a lesson that many souls come to learn on Earth; it has nothing to do with the sex act.
You got your current beliefs from growing up with the beliefs of parents, associates, religious organizations, and your own interpretation of what makes a moral individual. They are not right or wrong, and neither are the beliefs held by those preaching free love. Their actions are practiced in order to feel the sensations that only a body can provide. For some, sexual release is the ultimate way to unwind and experience pleasure, even if just as a one-night stand or casual meet-up. This is not against any spiritual principle.
Every soul has the freedom to choose the things they feel are right for their life. If there are childhood beliefs that make you feel comfortable, and they are in conflict with new desires, you have the ability to keep them intact or to rewrite them in order to try new things. The choice is always yours. You came to Earth to experience things that can only be accessed through the human nervous system and physical condition. You determine what is appropriate for your life lessons.