Fear of manifestation
QUESTION: Masters, I am having trouble manifesting a girlfriend. This has always been a hang up of mine; I had my first and only girlfriend at the age of 33 after much prayer. Now I am stuck, because I know prayer works and I fear it. If my every whim were to be answered life would become unbearable and I wouldn’t develop. So I cannot pray without internal resistance born from fear that my prayers will actually be answered. If I was praying for something spiritual I would have no fear, but this prayer seems to be only about satisfying my ego. But as I said, having a girlfriend is a particular hang up of mine, because I often satisfy my ego in other ways. How can I transcend this problem without becoming a monk? ~George, UK
ANSWER: Prayer, as recognized by most people from the instruction of organized religion, is the beseeching of a supreme being, who has the power of judgment over all others, to grant the subject matter of the prayer. This being outside of oneself is believed to have ultimate control over everything that happens.
Within each person is a soul that is a piece of the Source of all, who exists in unconditional love with no judgment whatsoever. Therefore, each person’s soul has the same magnificent abilities and characteristics of the origin of all existence. For humans, the basic problem is they first have to accept and realize that they have these capabilities. They are all powerful, all creative, all knowing, and all magnificent.
Even if they accept their abilities, they may not be able to use them in a particular lifetime because doing so would interfere or conflict with the life lessons they chose before coming to Earth. If something that is desired is not in conflict, it then becomes simply an issue of people having faith in themselves and their powers.
When they think they are praying to an entity outside of themselves, they are actually asking themselves if they believe they deserve, and wish to use the energy to create, the object of their desire in their life. Doing so is a spiritual act because it is using one’s essence. An ego is not able to create something, but a soul is.
Your difficulty is having faith in yourself and the need to stop questioning your worthiness. Life lessons include accepting yourself without question; avoiding negativity and seeing only positive outcomes; getting rid of phrases like “I can’t”, “I don’t believe it”, “It will never happen”, “It won’t work”. Start saying instead: ”I have a beautiful female companion” – and believe she is coming to you.