Recognizing your strengths
QUESTION: Masters, throughout my life I have been bullied by others. I am now at university and dealing with a very ego-centric, vindictive person in a shared house. He is manipulative, selfish and insults me and others with no regard for social boundaries at all. This person has upset me a great deal in the last year; however he has bags of charisma and energy and tries to control everyone in our friendship circle. What lesson am I supposed to learn from this experience? Have I attracted this? And why does he behave in this way? Is he a truly evil person? ~Jay, Finland
ANSWER: This life, you have chosen to deal with a lesson of low self-esteem. This makes it easy to be bullied because you take everything very personally and accept some of the nasty comments as being truthful. It’s as if you are asking bullies to abuse you. You don’t think you are worthy of being one of the top guys, and you judge others by what you see.
You can only be upset if you allow yourself to be. To be upset, you have to believe that the taunts of your abuser are more truthful than the reality of your life. In other words, you are saying that this person knows more about who you are than you do. It is time to take back your power, to make your own decisions about what is happening around you and who you are.
It is possible to remain in this living situation if you ignore the antics of the bully. Whenever he starts in on you or someone in your presence, step back for a moment and analyze what is happening. See him as a scared little boy who uses his mouth to make himself important. If you don’t give him any respect for his actions, he will remain as a blowhard jerk trying to intimidate those who let him. By ignoring him, you will prick his inflated balloon and all the air will escape.
Accept yourself as a soul who is a piece of Source with all the powers and abilities of Source. These will stay out of sight and use until you allow yourself to believe you have these powers. Go into the core of your being where this energy is always present. First find the unconditional love that is there and then all the other abilities. Progress will come slowly at first, but when you find your strength you will be able to do anything you desire.
Your bully uses this characteristic to hide from his insecurities. It is part of his life lessons. He is not an evil person, just a person who feels safe surrounded by negativity. If you send positive love energy in his direction, he will not know what to do with it.
Your freedom of choice permits you to take the negativity that has plagued you your whole life and replace it with positive love energy. Love the life you can live. As people try to suck you in with negative actions, repel them with the knowledge that the choice is yours.