Living with our choices
QUESTION: Masters, I know that before reincarnation we choose our family for a reason. But I feel rejected in all aspect by them and special for my mom. I don’t understand why? They make me feel guilty and not worthy. And now, I’m 30 years old and I ‘m tired of this. So I decided I’m not going to accept being rejected or depreciated any more. So I’m far away from them. Am I being selfish doing this? My sisters and Brother always are right over me. I can’t express myself because my mom feels hurt. Is that right? What can i do to change this situation? ~Uyara, Brazil
ANSWER: Each soul comes to planet Earth to experience the life lessons it had chosen. No person has any help in learning those lessons – it is a solitary event. Your lessons included recognizing that you did not deserve to be disrespected and constantly depreciated. You learned to take control of your life and honor yourself by removing yourself from this untenable situation.
You chose your family so you could have the people who would allow you to be immersed in these lessons. Choice generally involves the negative energies needed, not a loving relationship; that you have at Home and don’t need to enter a human life to experience.
Your mother is your most complicated learning source. You want to love her because you think you should – doesn’t everyone? The job you and she agreed upon was she would constantly throw negativity at you until you respected yourself enough to say, “No more.” She has the knack of psychologically abusing you as well as emotionally trying to impact you by “feeling hurt” when you don’t accept all the trauma she heaps upon you.
You have no spiritual responsibility to remain a part of the games they are playing. You will only grow in awareness by being away from the constant pressure until you can see what is really happening. You are as good as they, you are not guilty of causing them pain, and you are just as worthy to enjoy your life as anyone.
It is time to accept yourself as the beautiful person you are. When you can feel your power, you will be able to listen to what they say and tell them: “I understand that is what you believe to be true, but I do not feel it is true, nor that it applies to the person that I have become.” The only thing you can do is to be yourself, as you feel you want to be, and ignore what they are trying to make you.