Between dimensions
QUESTION: Masters, my Mother aged 85 and in a nursing home, has told us how her husband, who has been in spirit world nearly fifteen years, has been visiting her and standing behind her chair in her room. She is worried he can’t feed himself and he has parked his bike outside in the rain. We have explained this should be a comfort to her, but she seems very distressed after his visits. Is this a sign of spirit world ready to take Mother over to her new life or just trying to comfort her? ~Linda, United Kingdom
ANSWER: When souls get ready to cross over and return Home, they have all their lifetime fears and doubts constantly on their minds. Their guides, friends, relatives and soul mates come and try to remind them why they should have no fear but, rather, anticipate returning to a place where they can commune with the visitors in an enjoyable setting.
Your mother still has guilt over the death of her husband. She blames herself for not noticing what was happening and somehow being able to prevent it. The contract they had was for your mother to have these feelings so that she might see the fallacy in them and be able to accept her husband’s life plan. She is retreating into the role of nurturer instead of accepting the current position as elder needing caring.
Your mother is regressing into a place of putting herself behind all others and thinking only of those others. Her husband’s visits allow her to do this. He is there to try to prepare her to accept that this part of her life is all about her: a place where she should be thinking about what she wants to do, and what she needs from others.
Her major life lesson was about loving oneself and she isn’t allowing this to happen. There are other souls also working with her, but her husband gives her the best opportunity to tune out herself and “care” for another. This is a time of learning and they are trying to assist her. Her distress comes from not wanting to accept the situation. She will soon, and then what she does is up to her.