Misery loves company
QUESTION: Masters, I really need some help with what is happening to me right now. I believe I met my split or twin flame and it has been very difficult. There are many symptoms and stages I have to go through alone while he was away, he is in the military. We both have suffered from abuse and the like in life. Although he is very gentle and kind, he is completely shut down. conditioned? mental illness? I just don’t know. So, like I said, I really am left alone to make sense of it all. Now, he has been stationed in another state and it feels like death. I hope you can respond quickly, his orders were so sudden. ~Piper, USA
ANSWER: This man, while he is from your same soul group and has shared lives with you before, is not your twin flame. You both chose similar life-lesson patterns for this lifetime so you appear to be identical in many aspects, hence the basis for your belief about the connection between you. He has his lessons hidden under a layer of emotionless personality. Your lessons are hidden under a lack of self-confidence and the need for constant acceptance and validation.
Having him near will not correct your problems or help you learn your lessons. You have to look to yourself for your answers. It is time to take responsibility for your insecurities. You want someone to tell you what to do because you have no confidence in your own decisions. It is time to ask why. You have been programmed to believe that you are not as good as other people and cannot take care of yourself.
All humans have an everlasting perfect soul inside of them. You have to accept that soul as your energy source and believe it will protect you and provide all the answers for you. When you sense a doubt arising about an activity, go into your feelings and ask why that fear is present. If you clear out your usual thought patterns of blame, you will begin to sense the cause. Mostly things that have been done or said to you have planted this fear and doubt in your being.
Once you have an idea about the cause, you then ask whether you feel you need to keep this response alive in you. If it no longer serves you and you want to change your reaction to this type of situation, then choose what way you want to handle similar things in the future. Your soul mate has as many problems to solve as you do but they are not the same, so being together right now will only magnify the problems you face.