Suicide of 50-year-old son
QUESTION: Masters, I had a 50-yr-old son take his own life three months ago. When we make our life contracts before we incarnate to this earth is that something one would choose? I am also having a hard time with the fact that he loved our family so much and this has left us with such a heart ache. We want so much for a sign to know that he made it across and that he is ok, even a dream but so far none of us has had anything. How can we get these answers? ~Darlene, USA
ANSWER: Suicide is a life lesson. It may be a single soul’s or it may be part of a group lesson, which is the situation in your son’s case. It is hard to imagine the facts at this time, but your whole family and many of your son’s friends agreed they wished to experience the sudden loss of a loved one. They wanted to feel abandonment, betrayal, survivor’s guilt, general guilt, and other lessons. Your son volunteered to be the one to leave.
The easiest way to affect a large number of people at once is through the event of suicide. You not only have the emotional upheaval from your thoughts but are bombarded with all the prejudices and lack of understanding from society. Religious beliefs condemn the person, and the survivors have to see how they feel about the judgment of others.
Your son easily transitioned back Home because he had planned the departure and was met and welcomed by friends and relatives. He has tried to let you know he is there, but everyone is still so traumatized that they aren’t able to relax enough to listen. Don’t have any specific expectations of how he will communicate; just let it happen.
He sends the message that you were all quite brave to have been a part of this type of lesson. He had rather the easiest of the parts. Once he was here, he would rather have stayed, but he had agreed and felt that there was good reason for the rest of the group to be able to experience all the emotions and lessons that are now possible and ongoing. It is because he loved everyone so much that he was able to leave.