When is it real and not wishing?
QUESTION: Masters, there is a man I met online on Facebook through a strange set of coincidences. We began messaging one night and it went right into a phone conversation, intensely sexual, very freudianesque, dominance-submission, sex therapy kind of situation. But it also included conversation with bonding and love and care. It all become such an incredibly intense and difficult situation because of age and physical distance, he is almost 10 years younger than I and 1200 miles away. He isn’t like anyone I’ve ever known and the pain of separating was crushing even though it felt like it had to be done. I was left feeling like I was having an existential crisis. That’s how I discovered the concept of Twin Flame and it seems to explain so much. But, could it also be strictly in the realm of psychology and wishful thinking? ~Anonymous
ANSWER: Human beings have a need to be needed, loved, and a feeling that they are special. Doing something long distance is safer than being face to face with someone. You don’t have to deal with their body language and any physical affectations that may say something different to you from what they are saying verbally. You are additionally able to visualize people as you would like them to be.
Living dangerously, experimenting with sexual fantasies you would never do physically with another, brings added excitement to any conversation. Many people use books and DVDs to have these experiences, but you were able to have them in the first person with your mystery man. Things you would never say or do in person you are willing to “perform” over the wires because you are safe and will never actually have to go through with the acts. The emotional release can be just as strong when you are totally engaged in the play acting as if you physically completed the event.
He is a voyeur. He is the type who used to call sex hotlines but now can do it for free because of the Internet and telephones. He has a lot of experience getting women to do what he wants them to. He has knowledge of psychology to intensify his own response as well as that of the women he speaks with. He is aware of all the buzz words that turn people into sexually charged beings.
He is not your twin flame, just a very glib human having fun and a physical release while giving you the same. Ask yourself why you became so dependent so quickly. You need more love in your life, so start with loving yourself for who you are.