Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters, many years ago I met a man named Robert. We had an instant body, mind, heart, and soul connection. We communicated through telepathy. It was like I was being reunited with a long-lost best friend. I forgot who I was, where I was, time stood still. When we parted, it was one of the hardest things I have ever done, it felt like my heart, my being, was being ripped in two. I phoned him and I felt like my energy was expanding from my heart and body towards him. I promised him we would cross paths and never did. I was married at the time, I never knew if he was but sensed that any passion expressed would come at a high price. Even so, I felt so much he was my soul mate and destined to be in my life. Hanging up the phone took all the strength in me. This memory has come back to me and even after all these years, the thought of him pulls my heart and stirs my spirit. What was this all about? What were and are the lessons of this? Will I ever cross paths with him again? Is this about me not feeling a connection now in my life? ~Shelly, USA

ANSWER: Robert was not only a soul mate but your twin flame. That intensity which you experienced is the bond which exists between twins. Just as you are aware now that the time with him made the rest of your existence irrelevant, had you stayed with him, all the lessons you were in the middle of would have ceased to have your attention. Your family would have been forgotten, your connections to others unimportant, and your lessons left unfinished. What would that have meant? Everything you did up to the time of meeting him would have been for naught.

You two had not planned on getting together in this lifetime. You had each made independent contracts and life plans. Had you two dropped everything to be together, it would be the same as if you dropped out of this life. You both would have had to repeat this lifetime with all the lessons you worked so hard to understand up to that point in time. Earthly feelings and lessons are completely overshadowed by the sensation of unconditional love. It sounds great, but you can have it when you are both at Home without messing up your work.

You knew that the price to stay with him came at too high a cost. He instinctively knew he had his own lessons to complete. While you did not plan to be together in this life, it might happen if both of you finish up your tasks—neither of you has as of yet. You remember this all now so you may evaluate your current situation against an example of exercising your freedom of choice to accept the best way to move forward. It is another place in your journey to make choices.

QUESTION: Masters, I have been in a painful marriage for the last 8 yrs with lots of downs more than ups, being emotionally abused and feeling worthless. I had to stay on for my two children. Recently I started having feelings for my ex which is mutual. I want to move on but don’t know how to. No one supports this action as it would be a second marriage and I would be viewed as a failure. Please help, I don’t know why I love this other guy—is there a reason? ~Hannah, New Zealand

ANSWER: You are being pulled between two opposite poles asking for you to exercise your freedom of choice. Will you decide to take responsibility for the decisions that feel right to you, or are you going to continue giving up your power to society, letting others dictate your life?

In your question, every decision you reported having taken in the past was because of what other people would think. Nowhere do you say “this is what I feel.” Do all those people, who you feel will not support you, know better than you what is the best thing for you? You have accepted what you have been told by others. What, if anything, will happen to you physically if someone thinks you are a failure? Do you really fail in life if you no longer choose to stay in a situation where you are miserable, or one where others “think” it is what you should do?

When you stayed in the marriage, convinced you had to do so for your children, you were showing them that it was all right for someone to dictate to you what you should do. They saw their mother as fearful and ineffective. You gave them a pattern to follow in their own lives. Do you want them to stay in marriages that are not working, or be controlled by others out of fear?

Your husband is cold, domineering, and insensitive. Your ex is kind, compassionate, and understanding. You are drawn to a relationship that would be satisfying to you. You now have to accept that you are worthy of happiness. You don’t think you are good enough—society says you would be a failure. The people who have led you to believe that are the ones who want you to stay just as you are.

Start making your own choices based on your own feelings. Believe you are worthy of being happy and go out and make it happen.

QUESTION: Masters, for quite some time now I have been working on myself, in spiritual and emotional sense. But it’s rather hard. I know that joy and happiness and well-being are natural to us and every time we fall sad or unhappy it feels bad to us. And I have tried to fight everything and just allow myself to feel the joy and love and acceptance but recently it became hard, all these negative beliefs and emotions are hard to bear and I end up feeling empty, not able to feel anything, what can I do? ~Awen, Croatia

ANSWER: The way humans learn lessons is by experiencing the opposite of perfection and unconditional love. If you only knew joy, love, and acceptance, you would not be able to learn anything about this life. The first premise of learning is that the soul has freedom of choice to decide what it wants to do, feel, and experience.

When you begin to feel sad or unhappy, rejoice that you are facing another life lesson that, once learned, you will understand and then not have to go through again. The emotions are the outward indicator. Ask yourself why you feel the way you do to get to the lesson underneath. Most people get so bummed out by the sadness that they sink into the negativity instead of understanding and banishing the lesson.

A lesson in itself is acknowledging sadness and choosing to turn it into happiness. You are a very powerful soul and can create any situation you choose. Get up each day and see all the things you have to be thankful for, a roof over your head, food to eat, clothes to wear. Look for things that make you happy. Laugh every chance you get. Laugh at yourself for being a sourpuss. Laugh at yourself for taking life so seriously when you have the ability to change it at will.

Every time you perceive a negative thought, make a game out of finding the opposite positive idea and choose to work on bringing it into your day. As you chase away the negative beliefs and emotions, fill yourself with the remembrance of your most happy, loving, cherished emotions. Go inside and bring out your self-love to fill any voids. Don’t give negativity a chance to take hold; replace it with positivity.