Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters can you shed some light on soulmate connections? I think I have found another one last year at work. After surviving the first one, I thought this time it would be easier to deal with, but I was wrong. What is the point of having such strong feelings towards someone, only to have to let go of these feelings in the end? It hurts deep down inside. And makes me hate myself for not having their attention. Do soulmates always feel their connection and recognize it? Does this person in particular recognize it at all? ~Kt, Brazil

ANSWER: You are talking about soulmates as if they were a romantic twin flame, which they are not. The last soul that you separated from when being broken off from Source is known as your twin flame. You vibrate at the same frequency and can think of nothing else but each other when you are together. For that reason, twin flames are rarely both on the physical plane at the same time because they wouldn’t spend any time on their lessons.

Soulmates are the other souls individualized at the same time as you. They are the 72 immediately preceding you and the 72 immediately after you, a total of 144 souls who are like close siblings or even physical twins. Since you know these souls better than any others, they are the ones with whom you tend to make contracts to complete events on Earth.

Such contracts are rarely concerned with romantic encounters. Soulmates are destined to be your best friend, your most influential teacher, or your biggest protagonist. You enter into the contracts so that you have an assurance of being able to face a desired lesson.

You are a dreamer and allow yourself to vest all your emotions in romantic relations. You fantasize a perfect, movie-style relationship when the other person begins to show even a little interest in you. Your intensity tends to scare the person off before they even get to know you.

Stop having expectations that are not based on fact. When you meet a new prospect, don’t plan an “ever-after” until you get to know them. Take things slowly to see if you are compatible; get to understand where they are in their life and what their intentions are.

Most of the time a soulmate will recognize you – if they are truly a soulmate. But sometimes, they are not spiritually far enough advanced in this life to feel you. You don’t need a soulmate to have a satisfactory romance, just a like-minded individual.

QUESTION: Masters, is there anything I can do to help my daughter come to terms with the way her father is? He abandoned his two daughters when they were 15 and 17. The 15-year-old later took her life, largely I believe because the abandonment caused her to develop a mental illness. My older daughter still needs her father, but he is self-absorbed, selfish and self-centered. I do not want retribution against him, because I don’t want to be sucked into the cycle of karma. But can I help my daughter in some way? ~Luci, Australia

ANSWER: There is no way to get another to do something they do not wish to do. This applies to both your daughter and her father. As you know the only thing of any importance to him is himself. He never wanted children, except to prove his manhood, and doesn’t see that he has any responsibility toward them.

Since he never understood what love was, he doesn’t understand why his almost adult daughter needs to have anything to do with him. Your daughter sees part of her identity as “his daughter” and feels neglected and worthless because of his rejection. He is not actively rejecting her; he just doesn’t care or even think about her.

You could help your daughter by assisting her to see that there is nothing lacking in her; it is her father who doesn’t have the maturity, or interest, to see what effects his separation causes. She needs to decide that what he can provide for her will not help her at all but only cause heartache and depression.

You can point out that his lessons this lifetime are about selfishness, and not needing another soul. He wanted to see if he could work through and discover the joy and satisfaction of working and needing others. He has not gotten anywhere near that point and probably will not in this lifetime.

Help your daughter value herself and learn what a fantastic person she is. Let her turn that sense of loss into sharing with others who will reciprocate love.

QUESTION: Masters, I am working for a boss rather than in private practice for the first time in years. I feel anxious that I am being asked to do too much, that I am being ‘put down’ and that there is a lot of resentment in the workplace. How do I differentiate between what of this is my own old patterns manifesting and what is the boss’s? Can I make this employment relationship a happy and respectful one? ~Catherine, Australia

ANSWER: You are your own worst enemy. You have so many expectations of how the business should be run, based on the way you have run your own in the past, that you think you know what is best for your boss and what the other employees should do and how they should treat you. When someone is responsible for the work ethic of a team of employees, they expect the same type of effort by all the employees.

Based on the performance of past workers, your boss knows what each should be capable of. You used to spend more time with clients than this business allots to each. This makes you think that the boss is making unreasonable demands when that is not the case. The other employees think you are snooty and don’t want to see as many people as they do. They equate your behavior with a standoffish superiority.

When someone is paying you to work for them, you have to follow their rules and regulations or it will never be comfortable for either one of you. To “fit in” and feel a part of the organization, you must learn what is expected. If you do not like their way of doing business, look elsewhere.

Watch the way the other employees handle their clients and see if you want to adapt to the same structure. The other workers have never run their own business and do not understand that there are many ways to deal with clients. The choice is yours if you want to comply with the expectations of the boss or not.