Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters does choosing its parents for a reincarnating soul require a life contract with the “parents’ souls”? ~Marshall, USA

ANSWER: Sometimes yes, and sometimes no. When a soul gets ready to incarnate, it has decided what life lessons it is going to work on in that life. The selection of parents has to do with ensuring that the desired and needed environment will be provided. The chosen lessons of the parents may be in line with the child’s or may have nothing whatsoever to do with the child’s intentions.

A contract would not be needed if the child wants to experience the breakup of a marriage. That would entail a contract between the parents but not with the child. If the child wants to have physical, mental, or emotional abuse, that may – but does not have to – require a contract.

A contract would not be required if the child just needs to be in an environment that allows them to observe addictions, mental illness, poverty, or such. Most situations in which the child is born with deformities or disabilities do involve a contractual agreement.

The whole purpose of life lessons is for the soul to understand them and, using their freedom of choice, choose to reverse the effects of the situation. A contract rarely, if ever, includes the learning and understanding of another’s chosen lessons. Each soul, whether parent or child, is on their own in working through their difficulties.

QUESTION: Masters my husband and I deeply care for each other but we are poles apart in our personality. All these years there has been trust between us and we have shared every aspect of our life for 33 years. About two years back my husband was soul searching and as he was also looking for new business opportunity as well in a different country, I suggested he go away and find himself. He ended up having an affair which I got to know. I didn’t say anything to him when he came back. I could see he very much wanted to come clean but couldn’t. Finally, after a year he spilled the beans. He was very apologetic and promised it would never happen again but also said he had to have that experience. I am trying to understand what the cause and learning was from this incident for both of us. ~Neelu, United Kingdom

ANSWER: Telling someone to go and find themselves is an open invitation to engage in various experiences they have not previously had. Your life had reached a point of friendship and mutual comfort. It was not exactly exciting or challenging. You had started treating each other more like siblings or best friends than inseparable lovers.

Your husband needed to explore his options, both professionally and personally, and you encouraged him to do just that. He was exposed to all sorts of new stimuli, including of a sexual nature. Uncertain as to what you meant to each other after all your time together, he was enticed by something new and romantic. He felt sought after and valued in the way your relationship had begun so many years ago but currently lacked.

His short time as a desired love object taught him that there were much more important things in a relationship than sex. He discovered how much your attention meant to him and that your attraction remained, just without the neon signs someone different had blasted at him.

He did need the experience to understand how significant you are in his life. He also learned the importance of communicating when feeling something missing in the way of excitement. For you, it is a wakeup call in evaluating when things have become too comfortable and preventing them from becoming boring. Both of you have the ability to create what you each need to feel complete in this union.

As couples spend a lot of time together, they become lazy in providing what their partner needs to be fulfilled. Many couples grow apart until they are no longer the people who joined in the marriage ceremony. Both of you need to honor yourselves in this situation and determine what it is you see as necessary for your future.

QUESTION: Masters I met a lovely man 4 years ago, and moved in with him. I found it hard because his adult children still live with him, and there was pressure to go to his parents for dinner 3 times a week, which I didn’t enjoy. I moved out in order to have my own life back. I received much disapproval for this, but I didn’t care because in my heart I know what I need. I don’t feel this man really loves me in a meaningful way – he gets annoyed when I talk about spiritual things. Do I expect too much from my relationships? I’m learning to be what I need for myself, to love myself, but I still want certain qualities in a partner. Should I let go of the idea of having an “ideal mate?” ~Katalin, Canada

ANSWER: An “ideal mate” is different for everyone and every circumstance. You have used very specific expectations to define yours. Expectations are very limiting because they don’t take into consideration the wishes of anybody but yourself. Add another person and expectations are impossible to fulfill.

You have been desperate in the past to have a mate – so much so that you have jumped at the first offer to pair up with someone. This “lovely man” was great when not in his environment. He didn’t give you a good idea of what you would be facing if you moved in with him. His whole life is his family and mama is still calling all the shots. He would do very well in a commune or group-living situation.

This man does not know what monogamous love is about. He does not differentiate between love for his parents, his children, or his woman. One is just as important as the other. You convinced yourself, prior to moving in, that he would change his allegiance once you were there. As you admit, he did not.

This is all about honoring yourself and what you need to feel good about yourself. Don’t give import to anything but your own feelings in this matter. There are other men out there who would enter a sharing relationship with you if you defined what you wanted before you began. Be brutally honest with yourself and with them before you commit.