Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters, I’m Markku from Finland a gay man. I’m been looking for my life soul mate for a long time. I have been doing my lightwork, etc. for long time. I don’t know why I’m frustrated when I open myself to a man who I love I get disappointed. I’m very, very open honest man. I have time now since I quit work I’m sort of free for everything. My heart tells me to rest and enjoy but my mind wants a man in my life. I’m tired of this. Please I like to hear some honest answers. What’s my role here, do I ever achieve my goal of a life partner? ~Markku, Suomi

ANSWER: We hate to disappoint you, but there is no one life soul mate, partner, or any designated individual for you. You are being betrayed by your own expectations. Disappointment appears any time you have determined you want a particular outcome and it doesn’t materialize. When you plan out how you desire an event to be completed, you are trying to control the actions of any other people involved. You can never cause others to take an action to which they do not consent.

You doubt yourself so much that the message you are unconsciously sending out to others is one of confusion and indecision. The battle you are having between your heart and your mind is a good example of fighting yourself. Your mind is filled with thoughts and ideas that have been placed there by what you have been told and what you have read. It has nothing to do with your experience or your intuition; it comes from outside of yourself, from society.

Go with your heart, with the feelings of your inner self. Find a love of self within. Bring that love out and show the world you know what love is. When others feel the love you exude, they will want to be with you; that is how you will find a man to share your life. Remember, you can only love another to the degree you love yourself.

QUESTION: Masters, I am 30 years old and stuck with my ex-boyfriend with whom I have been separated now for four years. I broke up with him because I wanted to be alone and find myself. And by the time I was ready to commit with him, he said he needs to have time alone to find himself.  I feel I have closed my heart for others to even get close to me in a romantic way. I have had strong trust that we will get back together; even I don’t have any real evidence for that. I don’t know how to move on, because I would love to have serious romantic relationship and still he is not sure about me, same as I used to think about him. Are we getting back together or am I just living in fantasy world? ~Sisko, Finland

ANSWER: Are you aware of what you said in your question? “I am ‘stuck’ with my ex-boyfriend.” This is a conclusion that you have decided on and enforced. All souls have freedom of choice and can change their mind at any time.

This communique is all about you. It says nothing about wanting to share a relationship. You say it is on; you say you want a break; you want him back; and you are upset he wants time alone. Is there any wonder after the way you treated him four years ago that he might not want to trust that you will not do the same thing again?

You have closed your heart to anyone and anything that you have not decided on your own. He feels that while you say you are ready to commit, your actions and energy are not saying that. When you closed off others, it put an energetic “no trespassing” sign around you. You are doing this because you do not know what love is.

Spend time examining inner love for yourself. When you can love all aspects of your life, including the way you treat other people, you will be ready to get into a romantic relationship, but not until then. Right now you are living a fantasy life of the way you imagine you would like things to be, but there are no feelings or love involved. Find the love and then see if you can convey that to your old boyfriend or to someone who will love you for who you are now.

QUESTION: Masters, although my mother stays with us, her heart is always in favor of her sisters & their children. She makes me feel that if I do not manage things for her or take care of her, then she can always call on her sisters. She wants to do the things, which is not suitable for our family at current time. Why is she treating me like this from my childhood? I am now 35 yrs & she is getting older. I can very well use my powers to make her feel miserable, but my heart does not permit me to take strong actions. What could be the way that she would be in favor or me instead of her sister? I think that if she is staying with me, I am going to take care of her, why not I get her favor as well as her trust. ~Rajkumar, India

ANSWER: Your mother is a fearful, tyrannical, very confused lady. She was always babied by her family and when married was forced to assume responsibility for the first time. She longs for the carefree days of being coddled by her sisters. You represent that responsibility she does not want to assume. She figures if she is nasty enough to you, she will be able to get you to cower from her while still being her slave.

Your enlightenment has caused you to realize these are life lessons both of you are working on, and holding back your negative urges shows you have learned the fruitlessness of the lesson of retaliation. She is not on a path of growth, and until she chooses to go in that direction you will never get the respect and trust you seek from her.

She is looking “over the fence” into her sisters’ yards and seeing the way life was, and that consumes her desires. All you can do is suggest she ask her sisters if she can go and live with them, or else she is going to have to change her attitude toward you.

She is your mother in the physical sense, but on a spiritual basis she is just another soul on a journey that parallels your path. You have societal beliefs as to how you should treat her, but spiritually you may sever all ties if you desire. The biggest lesson you have in this situation is realization of your freedom of choice to decide your own future. You have been patterned with belief systems from society, your family, and religion, but you have the ability to pick and choose which rules and regulations you want to control your life.