Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters, please help me to understand what’s the matter with me, my daughter, and her old boyfriend. She leaves him, he was suffering a lot, he is like a son to me. I suffer with him a lot, today my daughter has another person, I don’t like and I feel inside me all the time a pain. My energy is low, my mind always thinks about him. I wait that one day my daughter will be with him again. Is it possible? It is a permanent suffering for me, many times I think I lost my mind.  Please explain to me this trilogy, grateful ~Maria, Portugal

ANSWER: It is impossible for one person to lead the life of another. You are trying to dictate to your daughter what she should do because of your attachment to the ex-boyfriend. You cannot make her like him; in fact, your insistence that she like him has caused her to rebel against your desires and run away from you.

The ex-boyfriend is a soul mate of yours with whom you have shared a number of lives. In his presence you feel the pleasure of past lives. He is with you in this life for you to understand more about trying to control the life of another. You associate the feeling of love more with him than with your daughter, and it is time for you to examine these feelings.

You have trouble loving yourself; you sense that love is only something that comes from outside. You will not have low energy or be in pain if you connect with the love inside and use it to see what is happening in your life. You have to stop worrying about others and start working on yourself.

What happens between your daughter and the ex is completely up to them. Stop fixating on them. Begin to create the life that you seek. Make your plans without the two of them. When you can clearly see a time without either of them, you are focusing on yourself.

Always thinking about him is like an obsession with a movie star or politician whom you may never even meet. It is time to become realistic. Your daughter has someone she is happy with at this time. Try to see him for the person he is, not just as a reflection of who you want him to be.

QUESTION: Masters, I love my best friend. She does not share the romantic feelings but there is great understanding and connection between us. Our relationship is purely platonic. Unfortunately someone she loves but with whom she is no longer together, threatened to kill me if I were to ever become close to her because of my sexuality and romantic feelings. I find it disturbing since my friend has never mentioned that to him and of the unknown methods he is using to extract information about people connected to her. Surely you must know how she has been treated by him both mentally and emotionally. I was never involved in their relationship. But as her friend, I want her to be safe and his obsession will haunt her. Why is there so much of intensity between them? Are they soul-mates or twin flames? Why is there sudden animosity against me? ~V., Singapore

ANSWER: The situation between your friend and her ex is a lesson they are sharing. It is not simple but has a number of different layers. He is, first and foremost, a very jealous person. He has tried to control every aspect of your friend’s life. He is very observant and didn’t need to be told about your feelings—he could sense them from things that were said and left unsaid.

These two are not soul mates or twin flames. He is learning all about control and she about discernment and not releasing her power to another. She has self-esteem issues that he uses to belittle her into doing what he wants. Even though they are no longer together he still influences her from afar. These are lessons that only she can resolve.

You may assist her by helping her examine her feelings about herself and why she so easily defers to others. She does not want to take responsibility for her decisions so she lets others make all the choices for her. Help her to love and value herself and see there is freedom of choice at every stage of life and that she can only learn if she steps up and makes those decisions herself.

He, on the other hand, is a very fearful person. He continually makes threats, particularly to females, but will not follow through with anything physical. He cannot stand confrontation if someone else is the aggressor. He can only have control over you and your friend if you allow it.

QUESTION: Masters, I’ve made a great virtual friendship. We know each other since last year. He was one of my best virtual friends! We used to talk a lot about our lives. I always feel well when I talk to him. But then something complicated happened, I thought that our friendship was growing stronger and I was afraid that it could become something bigger than a friendship. I told him about it, that I was confused, but then after the conversation he vanished, he said he would be a part of me, but not forever, just for a time, he said he needed a long time to think what to do. When I think about it I feel a little pain. Please Masters tell me what should I do? Wait for him to talk to me again or go after him? ~Vinicius, Brazil

ANSWER: You are chasing a cyber-ghost. Many people occupy their time on the Internet and create personas that they think the person they are communicating with will like. It is a game for them. Some of these people never say a thing that is true, even down to their real name, sex, age, and location.

Many lonely souls, or those who like to feel in control over others, have a whole list of people they string along until someone has the nerve to call their bluff by wanting to take the relationship further than just typing on a screen. To each of their contacts they appear to be the only one to whom he writes, but each is hearing a variation of the same stories.

Your “friend” was 90% creation and 10% reality. You were played. When you wanted to expand into personal information, he couldn’t allow that because you would find out that he didn’t mean a large portion of the ideas he shared with you. When you commented on your connection he panicked—that was the reason for the vanishing act.

You feel the pain of being used by him. In sharing yourself so fully, you were vulnerable to depending on what he said to you and hurt when he turned into something other than he had said he was. Right now he is evaluating how his contacts are going with others and taking time to think of a new story to spin your way if he needs to get you back into his stable of “friends.”

Nothing is right or wrong, so you have the freedom to choose what you wish to do next. With the information we have provided, go inside and feel what resonates with you; do this before you make up your mind. Love yourself for who you are and don’t let anyone dishonor you by lying to you.