Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters, A few years ago I left my job and everything I built in another city because my oldest son was involved with drugs. We returned to my home town with my family. It worked, my son recovered and eventually returned to school. My husband came later, but never felt very happy here. In January, my husband and my son had a fight and since then our relationship has been difficult. At one point I asked the separation. Now, over the past six months we are thinking of rescuing our life together, but it requires me to move to another city and my son stay here. I’m willing to drop everything and try again, because I believe in our love and the other two children are very attached to their father. I wonder what else I can do so that father and son can finally have more harmony? Is my decision to keep the family together in line with my spiritual plane? ~Cláudia, Brazil

ANSWER: You have always made your decisions about life based upon the needs of others. It is time to take into consideration what feels best for you. Your son is old enough now to take responsibility for himself and his decisions. He and his father have too many obstacles between them right now. Your husband blames your son for his unhappy life since he was forced to come to this town because you chose to come here for your son.

You have given so much attention to that son that he is now jealous of the relationship between you and your husband, his father. They will both have to have time apart to consider that the various decisions you were forced to make weren’t to choose one of them over the other, but to help the whole family.

It is choice time for you and your future. Your husband loves you tremendously but feels he has been overlooked in your desire to help your son. If you are to rescue this relationship you must give it time without the stress of your eldest and his problems. You will not be deserting your son but giving him space to build his own life. You will be re-creating a family with the rest – your husband and the other children. You will be helping them as well to establish a stronger connection to their father.

Any choice you make will be in alignment with your spiritual path, which is to learn from the situations in which you find yourself involved. The purpose of life is to discover your inner strengths and the abilities you possess and then use those first to help yourself, and then to assist others if you wish. You have chosen others first and now it is time to find your feelings and satisfy them.

QUESTION: Masters, why am I struggling to be sexually satisfied with my partner? Is it fear of HIV, incompatibility, past lives issues, appetite for adventures, unsuitability for monogamy, or what else? What would you advise me/us to do? ~Emanuele, UK

ANSWER:  First thing you need to do is stop thinking and analyzing everything and just feel what your body has to say. Release the expectations you have concerning the sex act and go with the flow. You think you need to have certain feelings or experiences, but the truth is that each person’s sensations and degree of satisfaction are based on his/her judgment of the union.

How do you get your information so that you may form an opinion? You depend on television, movies, novels, friends, and societal judgments. Does any of this impact the way you feel about the act? It shouldn’t, unless you feel you are part of a competition to do exactly what someone else has done.

You have many fears and doubts controlling your life. You default to the negative possibilities in all situations. You want someone to come in and tell you what to do. You do not think you are capable of taking responsibility for your life, having original ideas, and being able to “grade” your own experiences.

Whenever you give in to your fears – that is, accept that they are true – you are doomed to have a repeat of the situation you fear. You are a powerful soul, as all souls are, and you bring to your life that which you wish to experience. When you tell yourself you may be subject to HIV, unable to relax and enjoy, doomed by past-life problems, you are telling the universe you wish to have those things in your life.

In your wisdom and strength you create the world you desire. Visualize a place devoid of the things you fear and surrounded by unconditional love. See this as the place you have your relations, and the whole energy of your activity will be one of safe unconditional love. Enclose yourself in this cocoon of positivity and shut out all negative thoughts and possibilities.

You devalue your own worth. You are magnificent; accept it as true. You desire to have all the wonderful experiences in which you allow yourself to engage. Relax, stop putting pressure on yourself, and enjoy an intimate relationship with your partner. If both of you are completely into enjoying the situation, you won’t need anyone else.

QUESTION: Masters, I lived 53 years waiting for the encounter with the Love of my life. I married at 21, had three wonderful children, but did not love my ex-husband. It was a marriage very difficult for me, but thank God it’s over. Last year I met the man who made ​​me know the true feeling of love. I loved him so much it hurt his chest. But I was forced to leave him. He had already made ​​commitments family and I just fit in his life in the shadow. I’m not a woman to live in the shadow. Despite all this, I feel he loved me and still does. Somehow I feel that our destiny is connected. My question is: this sure is an illusion? I’m closing the doors to new opportunities real life? I pray for clarification. ~Rosali, Brazil

ANSWER: There is no absolute guarantee that souls will experience a “love of their life” in any particular lifetime. One of your life lessons has been to deal with a number of phases of love. You have seen – and rejected – marital love, excelled in familial love, and found the difficulties of tainted love.

You have delved into each type of love, worked with it, and decided what felt good to you and what was a waste of your time. Your marriage did not meet the standards you envisioned for true love, so you moved on. Your children’s love was of the highest order and you cherished their interactions with you.

When your lover appeared on the scene it was a carefree love for him, because he knew he did not intend to make it anything permanent. He played with you for his own gratification. Once you found you were not his first choice, you came out of the shadows he had made for you. You felt that type of love with no demands, and it was so different from your previous experiences that you really wanted it to last, regardless of the insincerity of the giver.

What you have felt is free love; it is not a “love of your life” sharing, totally involved, unconditional love. You want it to be more, but clinging to this experience will keep you away from new opportunities to find other types of love. He only loved the way he could control you because you sought love so severely. Learn to love yourself so that you are the center of the relationship and not just drifting along on the outside.