Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters, I met a man a year ago from turkey and had an instance connection. I’ve never felt like this before. It feels like he is a part of me. The situation in turkey is becoming dangerous and his chances of making it out are pretty slim. Last week I was planning a trip to go see him and he called to tell me that it was over between us. My heart was broken and I felt more pain than I ever felt in my life. I love him too much and I know that he loves me too. No matter what his decision is, I feel like I have to respect it. I just want him to be safe and happy. My question to you is, who is this man and what was this relationship all about? Is he a soulmate, a twin flame or some kind of crazy infatuation? ~Danielle, Canada

ANSWER: This whole meeting was about feeling who you are and what is important to you. You have a connection with this man because he is a soul mate of yours and you have shared a number of lives before. This is powering the intensity of the feelings you perceive. He is not your twin flame.

He desperately was looking for a way to leave Turkey and be able to live in another country. You seemed to present that ability for him. While he has some feelings for you, he does not love you to the extent to which you love him and crave his             attention. He has found other possible ways to be safe that do not involve having to move very far or get married.

He did not mean to hurt you because he is aware of the intensity of your feelings, but he senses you are much too infatuated with him and not looking at the practical aspects of your relationship. His only true concern at this time is himself.

You had created a dream life between the two of you without really knowing who he was; you were ready to change your whole existence to assist him. This situation came to you to show you that there are men out there to whom you can become attached.

You want a relationship so badly you are willing to sacrifice anything to get one. Honor yourself for the beautiful person you are – you are as important as any partner you might seek. Don’t surrender your life for that of another. Love yourself more, and then you will draw to you a person who is attracted to that love and will share it with you.

QUESTION: Masters, I’m one who does not know how to deal with human politics and it seems to be happening everywhere. I have thought of leaving my job but after many years, I’m still unable to know what I want and what I can do if I’m not working since I need money to survive. I’m quite afraid to get involved in politics and am too dense to handle it causing my kind boss trouble very often. I feel bad and tensed up as though I’m guilty and I do not dare to speak up to offer my help afraid of trouble. Should I even try pursuing other opportunities and can I even survive out there with my personality? ~Jun, Singapore

ANSWER: Your life lessons of lacking self-confidence and accepting without question whatever is said to you are at the root of your personal difficulties. You are hyper-sensitive to what is happening around you, even if it has nothing to do with you. You think people are talking about you all the time and imagine what you think they are saying against you, even when they are not saying anything about you.

The truth is most of the other employees talk about you only when they know they can upset you – it is like a game to them. These people can truly upset you only if you let them. If you do not pay any attention to what they are saying they will give up because it is no fun when they do not get a reaction from you.

What you call human politics is nothing more than the interaction between persons occupying the same space. When asked for your opinion on something, you hesitate, not wanting to make yourself vulnerable to criticism, because you feel you are constantly being judged. That is not the case. Some of your fellow employees believe you have something to offer and are just trying to get you to participate.

You can change the way you sense things in the workplace if you understand who you are and what your strengths are. Isolate yourself from others and see how comfortable that makes you feel. Then take that sense of comfort and open yourself to the interaction with others. When you feel a thing is right for you, don’t let anyone change your mind.

The only other possible situation for you would be one in which you work alone, with no contact with people. This would be very lonely and would prevent you from learning about yourself and the meaning behind your life lessons. The choice is up to you.

QUESTION: Masters, I do not understand the purpose of my mother in my and my sister’s life…no matter how much we loved her she was always so abusive, judgmental and negative. With time I have become passive and my sister aggressive. And with time instead of growing with age my mother has become more negative. Do we need to stay with her as duty or leave for our peace at least? Is accumulation of negativity a part of learning of such people? ~J.S., India

ANSWER: The three of you had many joint lessons to attempt to learn in this life. Your mother came to Earth to learn about love. She was never successful and does not understand what familial love is all about. She has always chosen negative thoughts, moods, emotions, and activities. She is more content to be morose and depressed than to be happy, and she wishes the same for others.

She also had a lot of fear in her life. She has no self-confidence and therefore feels safe only when she is in control, which resulted in the unsavory treatment she delivered to you girls.

You and your sister wanted to experience these lessons demonstrated by your mother so that you could use the information to make choices for yourself. You have both reacted differently to this experience. You have decided not to react to the actions of your mother – instead, being passive and non-confrontational. Your sister became reactive and deals out aggression in response to what she considers unfair treatment.

Your mother is not going to change her personality at this point of her life. If anything, you will find that she will become more demonstrative, negative, and argumentative because no one is objecting or calling her on her actions. You have no spiritual responsibility to stay within the negative range of her reach.

It is time for you two to see what life can be like without constant conflict. You should experiment with being responsible only for yourselves. Learn to try different responses to day-to-day interactions. Examine if you feel content with your own behavior; if not, change it at will. When you do not have to protect yourself from your mother by being passive, you may find an enjoyment in being assertive.