Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters, Recently I came across a man in my life who seemed perfect in many ways. I enjoy being with him, he is sweet and respectful but some part of me still maintains a doubt. My family also has its doubts. There are things about him which also make me loathe about furthering the relationship with him even though he sometimes seems to want to. Should I allow him a chance? Is he the person I have been waiting for all my life? Is he tricking me or just trying to take advantage of my vulnerabilities? Why is it usually so easy to be around him and I find myself telling him so many things I haven’t told anyone else? When will I finally meet the one I have been waiting for? Aquila, India

ANSWER: There is no one person who is destined to be with you. You determine who it is you want to be with and energetically draw those to you who allow you to fulfill your desires. No two humans ever match identically since each has freedom of choice to decide what to do from moment to moment. You are always changing; who you are, what you want, and what satisfies you are based upon the experiences you have.

A relationship is successful when the two parties share who they are and what their dreams are for the future. You should only listen to your inner feelings and not the thinking of family and friends. Look for a comfortable and loving connection. Since you are not identical, there will be times when you can’t stand something he is doing, but the same is being perceived by him about what you are thinking and doing.

Only you know if this is the one you have been waiting for. You are making the plans, deciding the requirements you seek, and calling the person to you. Stop putting so many obstacles in your own way. You are seeing only the aspects of him you can’t stand instead of seeing if you can work them out so you are both happy.

He loves you and enjoys being in your company. He would never do anything to hurt you. The idea you have that he is tricking you and working on your vulnerabilities does not come from inside you but from relatives who do not want you to be happy. Go with your feelings. If it feels good, see how you can make it even better. Communication is the key.

QUESTION: Masters, I am married for many, many years but have had an affair also for a very long time, 25 years in fact. My husband knows about it and actively encourages us. My lover is also married but unhappily so. Please could you tell me if this scenario is something that we three agreed upon before coming here? Is my lover my soul mate? I feel such a connection with him and we just cannot end our affair. I am happy with my husband the majority of the time, but he is quite controlling. Will I ever spend a life with my lover, just the two of us? ~Joyce, England

ANSWER: All souls have total freedom of choice to choose the situations that create their human experience. Each of you is dealing with your chosen life lessons in different ways. Some of these interconnected activities were discussed before coming to Earth, but just in the way they would allow one to learn something to increase wisdom.

You needed to have a life of examining the various aspects and types of physical love – to see what was for show to other humans and what was fulfilling the soul’s desire for using the physical body’s nervous, skeletal-muscular, emotional, and mental abilities. Outside of the physical body’s animalistic urges to experience orgasms is the psychological and emotional impact these activities with various people have on the one sharing multiple experiences.

Your husband has found many other physical activities that allow him to feel in charge of his area of the world. He wants to preserve the image of having a loving, obedient wife at his beck and call, taking care of him and his wants. He doesn’t want you to leave him, so the fact that your lover is married makes him feel safe in maintaining his “happy home” for the entire world to see. For him it is all about control and the perception he feels the world has of him and his strengths.

Your lover is a soul mate you are assisting to make decisions about his life. You are, however, also facilitating him in not facing the challenges of his home life. He is being forced into remaining with his wife because she desires it. He has a lack of self-esteem and self-worth. You are a safe harbor for him where he feels cherished and appreciated. He does not want to leave his wife because he would then have to take full responsibility for that decision. If things stay as they are, the womenfolk – you and the wife – make all the decisions and he is free to go along for the ride.

What happens in the future is up to each of you and the decisions you choose. Nothing is right or wrong in the realm of spiritual learning. The choices are all up to you.

QUESTION: Masters I want to understand my mother better. Issues have resurfaced since closely being with my parents (92) with their health issues and moving them into a retirement home. We know my mother’s inner dialogues have never been loving and that contributed to her rages when we were young. I also got that a lack of correct nutrition directly contributed to her intense irritably in her midlife. From ages 45 – 60s, was that narcissism that made her so “crazy” especially around Anita Bryant times, and not wanting to get family therapy? We tread a thin line in knowing when to push her and when she is being a princess. What have I misunderstood about her and what need I pay attention to in her remaining years. (You know I know we are all happy Source oversouls plotting out our lives for fun & learning.) ~Margaret, USA

ANSWER: Your mother has always been a very bitter person living in negativity. She is afraid of everything and strikes out against people so they won’t recognize her fear. When she compares herself with others, she always finds herself wanting so she tries to make all those around her as miserable as she feels; it is her way of hiding in full view of others.

She watched you as children and was jealous because she thought you were having a better life than she had, so she tried to ruin it in any way she could. This was all part of her chosen life lesson of recognizing she is a soul with Source energy. She feels abandoned and abused.

Lack of good nutrition did affect her nervous system and glands, but that was only secondary to the choices she made. She had to fight a sense of unease due to a weak constitution, but she chose to be unhappy and mad all the time. She would not get therapy because then someone might know how she hated herself and was always afraid. She had an idea of how to make herself feel better, but she chose not to do it.

You have a journey of your own, independent from hers. You have no spiritual responsibility for her life and choices unless you choose to be involved – then you are giving up your power to her and saying “do with me what you want.” She is like an animal or a child, seeing how far she can push you in order to feel superior. Every time you give into her, she rejoices in her power.

For your own sanity, maintain control in your world and don’t give in to her demands. She is always testing to see how much control she has. Honor yourself and live your own life.