Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters I am homosexual and I never said it to my mom, but she knows and hates me for that. I feel so sad, fearful and hopeless. I’ve never felt loved by her, and since I was a kid I knew I came to this life to teach her about unconditional love, but I’m weak, and failing because I am very submissive. I always wanted to commit suicide, Masters what should I do? ~Rafael, Brazil

ANSWER: Your mother did not start out hating you. She is as much offended by the fact that you never shared your orientation with her as she is that you are homosexual. At one point in your life she would have sat down with you and listened to your reasoning and feelings, but now she feels you have so little respect for her that you let others know but not her. It hurts to keep secrets.

You did have a plan to teach your mother about various types of love. It is difficult to ever get near to unconditional love on Earth because people always put restrictions on what they will tolerate from another person. She has trouble with any kind of love because she never experienced it growing up. Both of you lack any amount of self-love at all.

Those who do not love themselves, at least for the courage it took to decide to come to Earth and live through all kinds of lessons and tragedies they chose before coming, cannot possibly love others with any degree of intensity. In other words, you can love another only to the extent that you love yourself.

Your problems with lack of self-confidence and submissiveness are lessons. You need to accept that you are a piece of the Source energy and have all the strength and abilities of Source. To be submissive is to give your decision making over to others, telling them they know better what is right for you than you do. You are just as good as any other soul and can make choices for yourself if you allow yourself to make them.

Right now you are in a victim mode, saying “poor me, everyone is against me and no one likes me.” You are bringing additional negative energy to yourself by thinking and acting in this manner. Stand up for yourself. Know what you want to do and then do it without listening to anyone else.

You create your own reality by bringing into your world only those things that will serve your purpose. Stop letting the world tell you who you are. You know; you are just afraid to stand up and claim your life.

QUESTION: Masters, I have strong suspicions about my man is having affairs on his trips away from home, and this brings old hidden emotions to my mind, meaning jealousy and insecurity, even anger… I’m trying to turn it to the positive and concentrate on all the possible beautiful lessons, but so much confuses me. How should I handle this all? I really enjoy our time together and would like to feel us having a solid connection also outside physical behavior, but to my opinion he should be straighter forward of his real desires. Am I asking too much, or maybe too little? ~Manta, Finland

ANSWER: You have very little faith in your own abilities to hold on to a good man. You are imagining all kinds of reasons for your man not to honor you, such as betraying you by cheating on you when he is away. He has not yet done so. But he can sense all this doubt and negativity you are projecting, which is creating a wedge between you. You are even making him unconsciously think you want him to, or are giving him permission to, have affairs.

Stop sending all this anxiety from within you to blast him with uncertainty. Examine why you are jealous, insecure, and angry. You have allowed yourself to be treated this way in the past, but you can stop it by no longer letting these types of emotions into your life. You need to see yourself as strong, confident, and self-reliant.

Communication is the easiest way to clear all these doubts from you. Talk to him. Tell him your fears, your wants, and your desires. Make sure he is in tune with you and wants to share all that he is with you. Openly sharing yourself makes you vulnerable, but it is the only way to establish a firm connection with someone.

Don’t hide your insecurities from him. Join together to deal with your problems – the real and the imagined. It takes work to create a wonderful, fulfilling relationship. How badly do you really want one?

QUESTION: Masters is it fair to keep a marriage if you can’t define if it is love that I feel? I’ve been married for 5 years, we are from different nationalities and culture. I feel how much I’ve changed since I’m with him. I was a very passionate person, nowadays I’m more distant and cold as him. I like to be with him, spend nice time together, but I don’t feel really attracted to him, I don’t feel a need of having sex for instance. What can be learned from this? ~Luciana, Finland

Answer: It is time to be honest with yourself. You do not feel comfortable in this relationship most of the time. You stick around because occasionally you enjoy how he behaves toward you. Love is sharing yourself and all your energy with your partner, and your partner doing the same. You cannot make him love you. He treats you as a possession rather than as a cherished mate.

Because of those around you, you felt you would not be complete as a person until you got married. Along came someone who showed you interest even though it was not what you envisioned, but others said he would make a good husband so you got married. Before you wed, you never really got to know enough about him to realize that he was a cold and distant person.

You can remain with him if you wish, but ask yourself if you see any future improvement in the way he is behaving. You have freedom of choice to remove yourself from this loveless union and find someone who will cherish you and share his hopes and dreams with you. There is nothing wrong with deciding that you are in a situation where you are not happy and cannot see yourself becoming content in the future.

Whenever you have to change your personality to be with another, and it is not a change you enjoy, think about moving on. It is time to honor yourself. Love yourself enough to see that this relationship is dragging you down, and do something about it.