Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters I have been spiritual since I was a child. Focusing on personal growth, following the signs of the universe, and meditating since the age of 13, I am in my mid 30s now. I believe recently that I have met my twin flame which I did not know until after we separated. My life has shifted and I feel like I am becoming better and am serving others. I am thankful I met him, however, I find myself wanting and missing him terribly. I cannot contact him because I do not feel the need to intuitively; he vanished and he must conquer ego is what I feel. I want my spirituality to continue to grow and I want to follow my path, so does this intense feeling (visions, dreams, soul wrenching pain) ever go away? It has thrown my spirituality into unbalanced state. Nothing seems to help. ~Danielle, US

ANSWER: You did not meet your twin flame because if you had, you would not have separated so easily. You built up a whole dream world around him and ascribed characteristics to him which you only now believe existed. He came into your life so that you may examine love in various situations.

You were very comfortable in the relationship and hesitate to open yourself to the prospect of another. You are hiding under the shadow of your continued remembrances and projections of what you think existed; that is why you cannot break out of the pattern of wanting to return to that energy.

Spiritual growth is defined by accomplishing the lessons you chose to learn, which results in replacing all the negative ego judgment from your life with unconditionally loving, positive choices. The intense feelings that you are experiencing have to do with ego and judgment issues you have not completed.

You feel a sense of betrayal, abandonment, and abuse from your past relationship. You feel unfulfilled because you gave him everything you thought he wanted, and yet he left. You feel a sense of guilt that he left because of you. You need to examine that sensation, see that it isn’t true, and then let it go. With it will go a lot of the intense feelings that are haunting you.

One lesson from this is to see that giving your choices to another drains you of energy and self-worth. Never do something just because you think the other person will reciprocate with love. Honor yourself and your individual journey. Every time you feel sad or bad, ask your unconscious what is causing it. Go to the event and see if it really belongs to you or to your imagination of what was. If you don’t need it, send it on its way.

QUESTION: Masters, I finished a relationship of two years because of moral divergences. I’m sure that I love her, but I also want to get intimate and have sex with other women and even have more than one mate at a time. I never wanted to abandon her permanently. I believe that it is an important lesson. She does not love me unconditionally to be my mate and allow me the freedom to the lessons that I want? I am demanding too much of a mate? I’m not sure if I ever met a soul mate. ~Pedro, Brazil

ANSWER: Having a human sexual relationship does not require you to be with a soul mate. Most of one’s experiences in each lifetime are with non-soul mates. There are billions of souls, and only about 144 of them are from your soul group. You have not met, in a love relationship, any of your soul group; nor is that necessary to accomplish what you think you desire in this life.

Part of your question relates to a fantasy that you see yourself living. It is against almost all societal ethics. That does not mean that it cannot occur if you find consenting adults. In a spiritual journey, nothing is considered to be right or wrong but merely undertaken for the experience.

Because of the way people are raised, getting most of their beliefs about behavior from their parents, teachers, religions, and society, you will have difficulty finding someone who believes as you do. Ask yourself: If you found yourself intensely loving someone, would you be open to their taking other partners?

Not only can you not be sure if you loved that woman, because you can love another only to the extent that you love yourself, but also, you do not know what either love or self-love is. You think that having many sexual partners, your definition of love, will let you feel more love in all realms of your life. Simply, it will not. It will just leave you more confused and yearning.

You say this is all about lessons, while you ignore your primary chosen lesson of understanding human and spiritually unconditional love. Find out why you are so dissatisfied with your life. When you feel total love of this journey you are on and every aspect of it (which is complete love of self), then you will see repeated sexual experiences have nothing to do with feeling love and being loved.

QUESTION: Masters, I got emotionally and intimately involved to this man for the last five months. He and I were very much alike; we talked the same language and were very compatible in many aspects. I was investing my love energy to create a committed partnership. But he kept his life too secret and after various occasions when I demanded more sincerity and openness I finally found out two days ago that he had a girlfriend and was only using me as his lover. I am devastated. Even though I have been following a spiritual path for the last three years I fell prey to
this kind of painful and shameful experience. Who was he? Was it in a contract for this life? Where did I go wrong? Have I learned the lesson? ~Daniela, Brazil

ANSWER: Whenever you enter a relationship and do everything you think the other person wants you to do – in other words, love them completely without conditions so that they will love you as you want to be loved – you are kidding yourself that anything positive will come of the union. This is your imagination trying to create what isn’t there and somehow force the other person to become who they are not – someone you have imagined.

If you want to have a beautiful romantic connection, never spend time on anyone who is not open and forthright in all your conversations. Many people like to manipulate you by telling you what you want them to and holding back their inner desires and the fact that you are merely a new conquest for them.

This man was a master manipulator who was having fun dragging you along for his own pleasure. He was totally unconcerned about your wishes or dreams. He only cared about being able to use you, and you allowed this by not getting out of your dreaming state and demanding answers because you are so desperate for love.

Following a spiritual path only means that you are living the lessons you sought and trying to understand what they mean and how to avoid the same situation again. The main part of your lesson here is to always be in the moment and aware of what is going on, not dreaming about what you want things to be and ignoring the facts you see and feel. In the moment, you would have broken off the contact immediately when he would not open up to you.