Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters I’m 50+ single woman and I lost sexual desires after menopause. I wonder if I’ll ever have romantic relationship again. I have platonic “companion”, who is formally married, and will never divorce and I wonder if this friendship blocks me from meeting my soulmate and contributes to my lack of passion? I also wonder about karmic nature of our relationship and our past lives together. ~Irina, USA

ANSWER: Romantic love is an all-encompassing physical body involvement. The human body is engaged not only with the nervous system responses to the act, but also the emotions (mentally and physiologically), the egoic mental thought capabilities, and the spiritual-energetic layer are all reacting to the union. The body, mind, and spirit are constantly judging the performance of the joining. If the person is not totally available to concentrate on the desired end result, the fireworks do not go off.

When a body is in prime condition, the emotions are somewhat governed by the release of hormones within the body, mostly in an unconscious manner. Menopause shuts down the endocrine system, and the physical body has to work harder to produce stimulation that automatically flowed before.

It is not a hopeless ending but something that has to be recreated physically. Once the body “remembers” what it once experienced, it is possible to recapture that euphoria. It is like riding a bicycle – once learned, it is always possible. How you perform and think about the action is another thing entirely.

Your platonic companion is not preventing you from finding another relationship unless you allow that companionship to be all that you believe you deserve. You have to engage your creativity to manifest a lover. Believe you deserve one, visualize in what manner he will appear, then make yourself available to meet him.

There is not just one person out there who may provide for your physical needs. Most lovers are not soul mates but souls who have the same desires and needs as you. There is no such thing as karma, which implies a judgment or punishment. Each soul creates its own reality and has total freedom of choice in what it brings into its life. Past lives are not a consideration in your current life.

QUESTION: Masters, I am grateful for answering my question, you gave me a very helpful insight to accept the situation and move forward. You mentioned that I am lonely because I never made the effort to replace my childhood friends with adult friends. I feel that I have been doing this for the last two years. I go places, meet people and invite them to my home in a genuine desire to make friends. Many times, I also buy gifts to please them. I try to keep in touch but they seem never to make the time to have a coffee or chat with me. They are unavailable to me and eventually we lose contact. Why do these relationships not blossom? Is there something wrong with the way I approach them? Sometimes I feel they like me at first, but do not want to go beyond. Is it a life lesson for me? ~Melissa, Brazil

ANSWER: You are treating these people as if they are dolls or puppets you are using to fill in your life in the manner you desire. The gifts you purchase are bribes to get them to love you because you do not think you alone are good enough for them to like. You come on extremely strongly, almost forcing yourself on them, which has the effect of scaring them off – the opposite of what you intend.

You must first examine how you feel about yourself. Why do you think you are not good enough for others to want to spend time with you? Why do you try so hard to get others to like you? If you are being true to yourself, and not just trying to win over a stranger, they will see and accept what you project. If it is to their liking, they will take the initiative to remain in contact with you.

You do not share any common interests with these people and have done nothing to find some. You must find a reason for people to want to be with you, to have something to talk about, and share ideas. This may be books, a craft (knitting, painting, singing), an organization (religious, social, philanthropic) or some subject from a class that interests both of you. People need a reason to spend time with you besides your desire that they do so.

QUESTION: Masters, although, as a couple, we love each other, we seem to be struggling to let go of our ego and move to an unconditionally loving relationship. Are we missing something here? Is this a repeat of a previous pattern we haven’t mastered? Your insight into what might help is appreciated. ~D., UK

ANSWER: Unconditional love is a hard thing to find when you are still in a physical body and dealing with the third-dimensional duality. That type of love is easy to find when there is no negativity around and you never have a need to judge, rate, or grade someone else’s behavior. In other words, any place but on Earth!

Everything that you do is done within the realm of a society that contributes rules and regulations to your everyday behavior, whether or not you accept them as being a part of your personal belief system. You would get the opinion of family, friends, and colleagues about the way the two of you live your lives if not in strict compliance with societal norms. This is not bad if you feel comfortable with it.

To live your lives in unconditional love would be to allow (with acceptance) your partner to do whatever they wish to do whenever they wish to do it. That would include having affairs with other people, spending all your money, selling your favorite things, and not paying any attention to what you have to say, while you sit by unconditionally loving that they have the right to do such things.

Doesn’t sound so good now, does it? The spiritual path to enlightenment and being closer to your true self as a soul – a piece of Source – is to shed as much negativity as you possibly can and place your egoist judgment on hold. Every time you sense you are judging your partner, step back and ask what it is that is causing you to do so. Fears and doubts point the way to life lessons you came to work through, confront, and send on their way. This will help both of you grow.

This “difficulty” you perceive has nothing to do with past lives except that searching for the spiritual path is the purpose for coming to Earth in the first place. You are doing very well with this journey since you have identified ego as a problem and are examining what being free of ego would mean to you.

Keep at your work and you will get as close to unconditional love, on Earth, as is possible without compromising who you are.