Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters two years ago the man I thought I was to spend my life with died. I continued to believe in love and met a new man, being with him for six months. He broke up with me and my heart is shattered. I thought he was the one, my chance at love again. But he doesn’t feel the same intensity I feel for him. I thought he was the one I would spend my life with, I’m not sure how to believe in love anymore. I feel emotionally drained. ~Adela, UK

ANSWER: Every soul creates their own reality, but it goes only as far as the area over which they have control. When you created your expectations about love between you and another, that shaped all your thoughts and actions but had no effect upon your intended. Every soul has total freedom of choice concerning every aspect of their life. If they choose to spend time with someone, it is their choice and it will not be dictated because the other demands it.

A truly happy relationship exists only when both parties agree to share their innermost thoughts and emotions with each other. Communication is the binding force that creates a firm union. You have always made the decisions for both of you, assuming that since you want something, they must desire it as well. You have never discussed your mutual impressions of the day-to-day necessities of a lasting relationship.

As you have started an association, you have just assumed the man will know what you want even though you do not tell him what that is. This creates an immediate tension in the relationship and makes the man believe he is not an equal part of the pair. The intensity of your conclusions concerning where the two of you are in the relationship scares the daylights out of your partner. If, from the beginning, you discussed that you are looking for a “forever union,” things would not come as such a shock to him.

You are unaware of what a romantic love really is. You have a movie rendition of happily ever after, but not a human one where partners share the bad with the good. Ask yourself if you really love who you are.  Do you think it is proper to pick out a man and then decide, without his input, that he is to be your husband? Tone down your expectations and work on establishing a sharing-style love relationship with a man who desires the same. Only by talking it out can you see if you are both seeking the same direction.

QUESTION: Masters my one love, husband, after 18 years cheated on me, had another life, we have a daughter who is 2 and we are divorcing. He also has a porn addiction and I was made to do things I did not want, I’m as heartbroken as they come. Is there any meaning in this misery, is this my karma? I was faithful and very good to this man; but my love wasn’t enough. Your guidance is appreciated more than you know. ~Julianna, USA

ANSWER: This is not “karma” because it is not a punishment for something you have done. It is a part of your life lesson in honoring yourself, having self-confidence, and not allowing yourself to be manipulated. From the beginning of this relationship you have done whatever your husband requested, suggested, or demanded without ever speaking up because you thought that was necessary to get him to love you.

He has always been a selfish, egotistical, manipulative narcissist who was only ever concerned about his own sexual satisfaction. At no time did he ever consider that you were equal to him, and his very last thought was that the marriage should ever approach a sharing union. He has rarely been faithful to you.

You became infatuated early with him and the thought that he wanted little old you. You have struggled throughout your lifetime with thinking you are not worthy of anything else and that a wife should be obedient in the marriage. This is a life lesson that can be understood and put to rest with a little work.

You are a piece of Source energy, the same as he is. You are as magnificent, powerful, and deserving as Source. Allow yourself to accept that and demand that you be honored as the beautiful soul you are.

As you leave the marriage, visualize an ideal situation and bring a sharing, wonderful man into your life. In all coming relationships, always speak your own truth. Do not say or do something because you sense the other person wants you to perform in a way other than is comfortable to you. Be yourself, honor yourself, and you will find stability and happiness.

QUESTION: Masters, I’ve always, had difficulties with my relationships with other people. I was bullied and an outcast in my youth; I had a bad or shy temperament. Now in my early 20’s I get anxious around others and still seek approval. Rejection is painful and I get internally defensive easily, or daydream I’m impressing people who are “popular” or who I like. I also fantasize or obsess about members of the opposite sex who are unavailable to me. I get angry with people who disrespect me easily. I know this is from early trauma, but why can’t I let it go? It’s not who I am – I know I’m capable of unconditional love but my ego feels big and stuck in a place of pushing away normal social interactions. I have good friends and a partner, but much of my fear centers around rejection there as well. ~Catherine, Canada

ANSWER: We are sure it comes as no surprise that your major lesson involves all aspects of rejection. You are constantly on high alert for the feeling of rejection, both directly and from your own expectations. All souls, in order to grow, must learn to love themselves. As long as you continue to reject yourself and your life, you will never achieve understanding and self-love.

Seeking approval is saying to the world that they know more about you than even you do. You give them the power to make decisions for you as to how you should feel and react, yet you get angry when they comply with your wishes. It is hard to have respect for someone who thinks so little of themselves. You are telling them it is what you expect, so they comply.

Going into your dreams is running away from seeing how you may deal with these lessons. Your ego keeps you firmly in the middle of judgment where you demand, as do all egos, that things be constantly graded, rated, rejected, and judged. To break this cycle you are in, step away from judgment and begin evaluating whether you truly wish to have an association with those around you.

You don’t think you are worthy of being in the popular group so you hold yourself away from them. Envision yourself as part of any group of which you desire to be a part. That will allow you to take back your power to decide who will be your friends without any aspect of rejection. Release the need to be rejected. We know that sounds strange, but when you anticipate rejection is around every corner, you manifest it into your life.