Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters I am married and not looking for love elsewhere. Then out of the blue I find myself connecting on a spiritual level to a dear male friend whom I’ve known for over a decade. He’s married also but feels the same as me. We don’t want to leave our partners but this connection we have is very strong. Energy in heart chakra very strong at times. Can you tell me the purpose behind this? Why do we feel the way we do about each other and why now? Is it connected to a past life? Michelle, UK

ANSWER: It has nothing to do with a past life but everything to do with the fact that you are from the same soul group and spiritually vibrate at the same frequency. You had agreed to get together at this time in your lives to test and see how you both were doing with your chosen life lessons and how much you understood about your essence.

Each of you had lessons concerning romantic love, honoring your journey through being your own person, understanding how to discern the things from which you can learn, and fully bringing clarity to your lessons. What is happening currently throws a spotlight on many of these training areas.

Society establishes the rules and regulations one is supposed to obey when it comes to relationships with those other than their spouse. These are controlled by the ego mind, which is controlled by judgment with a distinct black-and-white delineation.

Just as it is possible for a parent to love more than one of several children, so it is possible for someone to love more than one other individual. In learning about romantic love, you have encountered the unconditional love that most spouses demand and the attraction you find toward another in addition to your husband. Allowing yourself to feel this “forbidden” love is honoring your journey by experiencing all facets available to you.

Now clarity and discernment appear and give you training about how to handle the situation. Clarity lets you see how your spouse would react to your other love and whether you wish to discuss your attraction to your friend. Discernment helps you decide what you want to do to shape the future relationships with both these men.

In a spiritual perspective, nothing is determined to be right or wrong. All are merely experiences from which the soul may learn. Each soul makes its own reality based upon exercising their freedom of choice. Exam time is here, and choosing the answers is up to you.

QUESTION: Masters, thanks so much for the guidance. I know I have chosen a very difficult path for me regarding romantic relationships (or the lack of them). I understand that we choose our own lessons before we come to Earth, but what happens when we (as humans) would rather not experience it anymore because it is too difficult? I have been reading answers in this website, but it seems that the only way of changing circumstances is by learning our lessons and growing. I have been doing a lot of self-work for years, but my singlehood has not changed. I appreciate the positive changes in my life, but I am really overwhelmed with doing this growth thing and things have not changed at all which is discouraging. I want a great relationship. Could you please shed some light on whether we can change our own soul’s plan? ~Nivea, Brazil

ANSWER: Since you have total freedom of choice, you can change the way your life plays out as long as you are not interfering with one of the major life lessons from that lifetime. For instance, if you wanted to be an opera singer but your vocal cords could not vibrate in a way that was pleasing to others, you would not be able to accomplish that. The lesson in such a situation would be that you wanted to learn what disappointment felt like and find other abilities that satisfied your cravings.

Part of your desire for a partner is so that you have someone else to make decisions for you. You want to shift responsibility for some aspects of life to another, because you feel this is the way life should be as constantly extolled by society. Well, your major lesson is to assume responsibility for life, to find a way to be totally independent of all others. You have not reached that step because you feel you are not complete until you have a partner sharing the load, and that is contrary to your lesson.

You have choices and can change direction at any time. You can freeze-frame your life where it is and not continue working on your lessons, or you can move ahead since you already know what your desired purpose was in this lifetime. Either approach is possible.

Stopping the forward movement would not necessarily accomplish what you want – a partner – because the energy around you would be one of defeat, and who gets attracted to a loser? First understanding what it is like to be independent does not prevent you from then gathering a sharing partner who will want to share your completed accomplishment with you.

QUESTION: Masters I would like to ask something of a very personal origin that even causes me shame, but I honestly cannot find an answer to that. I’m gay and I have a hard time connecting sexually with other partners, especially if it does not involve feeling. But I have a “fetish” that I do not understand where it came from and why it’s so strong in me. I feel attraction when I see men sleeping, even there are porn sites with this category, I believe that other gay people feel this attraction too, but it makes me sick to think about it, I suffer because I feel it is wrong to feel this kind of attraction where in my imagination I would be abusing men who were asleep. Has this had any past cause of life or was it something that came into being in this life? I do not understand this behavior. ~Luis, BRAZIL

ANSWER: You chose what, to most of society, is a very interesting series of life lessons. There is nothing wrong with your choices, and it is just for you to decide what you can be comfortable with during the remainder of this cycle.

Your major problem is a lack of self-confidence, self-worth, and understanding all the implications of your conscious and unconscious desires. You can dream all you want, and nothing is wrong with that. It is only a problem with society if you jump across the line that demarcates what is considered criminal. Thinking about it, talking about it, and engaging in it with other consenting adults is perfectly all right.

Seeing someone sleeping or unconscious removes all the fear from you that they will not respond as you desire. As you have found out from your research, you are not alone in these attractions. Many want a safe environment for their sexual outlets, and a non-responsive person provides that. Unless you force yourself on an unwilling individual, there is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about.

You have never chosen this type of lesson before. It was chosen by you to spend time sensing the feelings involved and working out a way to accept and live with them. Enjoy the bodily reactions that your dreams allow you. Before you ever decide to act on your fetish, find other like-minded people with whom to do so.