Unrequited love
QUESTION: Masters, I am in love with my best friend. I have already confessed my love but the feelings are unrequited. By the grace of God, our friendship has continued to be strong. Sometimes, it seems as if the love and attraction are shared but other times, it seems like the work of my mind. I do feel a deep sense of connection with my best friend and it is a warm and pure feeling that I have not experienced with anyone else. It makes me feel safe and at home. My best friend had a brief relationship with someone but due to the unconventional nature of that relationship, there was a lot of suffering. But they loved each other very much. I want to know what is this feeling that I am experiencing and if my friend’s significant other is the twin soul/soul mate. ~Vaishnavee, Singapore
ANSWER: Romantic love is a difficult human lesson. It has to involve at least two people. Since each soul has the ability to make its own choices in life, the partners must be in agreement and choose the same outcome. The unconditional love that souls have for each other’s essence can overpower the negative situation of one party’s being in love with another who does not return the feelings, and this unconditional love may be perceived as attraction.
Your best friend loves you as a soul and will continue to love who you are—despite the fact that you would like to include a romantic love into the mix, which doesn’t interest your friend. The romantic angle is just coming from your mind. Since your friend makes no demands upon you, the relationship is unencumbered and feels comfortable. Your friend is easy to love because of being the only one in your life who does not set conditions on you.
The relationship between your friend and the other person was very intense because they both wanted, needed, and desired to be with the “right one.” They are not twin flames or even soul mates. The thought that there is only one person for each soul is a fallacy. The person to whom you will be drawn as a romantic partner is very rarely determined before coming to Earth unless it is part of a life lesson. Most romantic relationships are just incidental to a human life.
Mostly what you feel is wishful thinking. Society has convinced people that they must have, and in fact have a right to have, a romantic lover. Your soul came to Earth to have a singular life experiencing various chosen lessons. If those lessons do not include something to do with romantic relationships, you simply don’t need to have romantic love in each lifetime.