Cheating husband
QUESTION: Masters, my husband has been cheating on me for the past several years, but I got to know about this only three years back. Since I have two kids, I did not leave my husband primarily because of my kids. This made my husband bold and shameless, saying that he would continue sleeping with women and have relationships with them and it is up to me to live with or leave him. I want to leave him but am scared of being a single mom and worried about my children. What if something happened to me—then who will look after them? Please guide me what should I do? ~Hansa, India
ANSWER: Choose to take control of your life. You are letting your husband and your fears hold you hostage. You are an extremely strong person but you don’t accept that. You would easily be able to manage without your cheating husband as a millstone around your neck. He doesn’t care for you, likes the idea of holding you hostage because of your fear of being able to survive without him, and will only get more brazen as time goes on.
Why do you even have the thought that something might happen to you? That is just another excuse you are putting in the way of leaving him. Nothing is going to happen to you just because you are on your own. You will find a support system of family and friends who will be there for you and the children.
Nothing is right or wrong in the journey of the soul. If you choose to remain in your situation, you must learn from the emotional abuse to which you are being subjected. You do not deserve to be treated as you are, but the abuse will continue until you say no more and walk out. The choice is yours.