Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters almost every friendship I have had, I have had to let go of and end for one reason or another. I have been taken for granted, or treated negatively, or had not been valued as much as I valued them. Why? ~M, USA

ANSWER: You are placing your trust in the ego judgment values of society and not examining the spiritual reasons for why your life is playing out as it is. All the “difficulties” you perceive as resulting from the actions of others are actually the result of life lessons you chose to appear in your life.

Your biggest, most powerful lesson deals with depending on expectations you have created concerning the behavior of others. It is impossible to get another to act exactly as you wish if they do not want to do so. You look only at your opinion of a situation and never how it might appear to another.

Lessons of betrayal, abandonment, dealing with lies, and not being able to evaluate the intentions of other people are all lessons you are living. You have not learned enough about any of these to be finished with its repeated appearance in your life. You take everything personally, even when the other person does not intend or direct that it apply to you.

Because you are constantly judging the actions of others according to the way you expect that they should treat you, when they don’t do exactly as you expect, you are further hurt and pull away. If you were to go back to the numerous betrayals you have suffered and take the place of the other party, you would see that they were being true to themselves and not your expectations.

You have created a victim role for yourself. Even the judgment of “value” you are so concerned about is meaningless when both sides are considered. Your actions have forced people to move away because they do not want to behave as you demand.

Start looking at situations with an open mind. Don’t pre-judge what another’s reaction to your encounter with them should look like. And be honest with yourself. Don’t do something because you think it is what the other person wants you to do. If you follow these suggestions, you will find that people will stop running away from your intensity.

QUESTION: Masters I would like to know why last year when things were aligning like a miracle and I knew for the first time what was my mission I made steps backwards instead of entering in that new frequency that was giving me enlightenment, new place, new job and most of all being with the person I love. Why did I block? I feel I betrayed myself. I feel the universe, God and my father (that passed away) were helping me by pointing the right direction and by opening my heart and the connection with my soul. I feel I waited millions of lives to reach this moment of synchronicity. Why did I choose to be passive and attached to material things, instead of being brave and follow what my soul was saying? Why not even love gave me enough motivation to brake with old patterns? I feel lost. What should I do? ~Gioia, Italy

ANSWER: You have chosen to deal with lessons that constantly make you over-analyze what you are doing. Whenever you start to “feel”, you step back because you don’t have control over your feelings like you do over your thoughts and it scares you. You then stop everything and run it over and over again in your head instead of following your heart and living what is possible.

One of the problems last year was facing too much all at the same time. With each new step you rejoiced in it, and then when the next came along you did not maintain the energy of the prior. You judged what you thought was more important.

Part of spiritual enlightenment is to disconnect from the third-dimensional ego and enter pure, loving evaluation. In order to do this, you have to release all societal judgment, which is controlled by the ego. No longer grade, rate, and judge everything in your life. Nothing is better than, worse than, more important than, or inferior to anything else. They are all just part of the experiences of life that provide the fodder for exercising your freedom of choice. Can you learn from them or not? That is the only thing that need concern you.

Material things, including physical love, are not needed on the spiritual journey of a soul, but they do provide lessons with which you may understand your purpose in coming. Use your wisdom to exercise freedom of choice between negative and positive energy, which is the basis of all learning on Earth.

Another of your personal lessons involves self-confidence and self-love. You are more comfortable allowing someone else to make your decisions for you rather than taking responsibility for them. Self-love involves accepting that what is happening to you is by choice – and loving yourself for setting up these lessons.

Don’t shy away from the fears and the doubts. Don’t let them stop you dead in your tracks. Face them and see why you called them to yourself.

QUESTION: Masters why is suicide so stigmatized? I feel that it is a choice like any other and that the feeling that it is something bad has been built culturally. I feel it’s just a way to go home early. ~Cristhiane, Brazil

ANSWER: Suicide is stigmatized because it diminishes the population. Society wants to encourage a healthy, productive mass of people who are available to take care of all the needs of others. Suicide is also a choice made by some people when they do not want to be controlled by others. If a person thinks they can end their worries and difficulties by ending their own life, then there is no permanence to the control one has over another.

The first edicts against suicide came from land owners and religious organizations. No one could read or write, so they learned everything through their churches and their bosses. These owners and controllers wanted to have absolute power over the behavior of those under them.

The only life solution they wanted the populace to see was the promise of salvation made to the peasants if they worked hard, did as they were told, and clung to the belief in going to heaven. Suicide sent them to hell, they were told (and also lost land owners a good working hand and churches a willing congregant).

To some it was merely a property issue: alive, they owned you; dead, they lost your services. So, suicide became outlawed. Society blamed the one who wished to end their own life and gave the family the responsibility to make sure none of their members took the easy way out. By promising a heavenly reward, the churches wanted to be the ultimate salvation for the wretched lives people were leading. The punishment for suicide was eternal damnation.

When you remove the influence of the rest of the society sharing this lifetime with you, you have the only real answer. You have freedom of choice to come and go as your soul desires. In the spiritual sense, nothing is considered to be right or wrong.