Masters of the Spirit World

intention, believing that intention will happen and then doing the work to help bring that intention to reality. It feels like there can be a danger to this process. What if the intentions come from a negative perspective? For example, a person has an inflated sense of self, wants to dominate, be acknowledged as the undisputed leader in his/ her field and uses any means to do so. This overconfidence and conviction in beliefs seems to bring the intentions into reality at the detriment to others. While someone who is under confident or tentative in beliefs could be severely penalized. It seems like confidence and believing are key to creating your life above all other qualities. Why is that ranked higher than other qualities? It seems like this system creates undue suffering. ~Anne, US

ANSWER: You have explained the manifestation process, but you don’t understand that the sole purpose is for that individual soul to create the circumstances that provide the necessary environment for their chosen lessons. Not all lessons are positive. Each soul is on their own journey and, therefore, only able to manifest for their lifetime, and sometimes the lessons may be negative.

You have mentioned some different human characteristics that enable the soul to experience learning. A soul’s lessons are not dependent upon any one else. Souls who are sharing a timeline with others chose that period because they were aware of what the others were going to be working on. Some chose to be there because they wished to observe the opposite of the traits they embody: a meek person watching an overconfident one, for example.

What one soul is doing influences another only if they allow it to do so. There is no ranking of one lesson as any more important than another. The soul varies their choices from time to time, and sometimes works with other souls to allow them to experience a dynamic incident. It isn’t causing suffering, only the dynamics requested. The one affected wouldn’t be present if they had not chosen to place themselves in that situation.

QUESTION: Masters, I don’t feel I love my mother and I don’t want to help her with her financial issues sacrificing myself since she has her own money and she has my brother and sister that she has done anything for them in any situation. She is always helping them and in many situations, I have to deal myself with my own problems because she never cared too much with them. Am I wrong or selfish to think like that? ~Luciana, Brazil

ANSWER: In the spiritual sense, nothing is considered wrong – or, for that matter, right. Everything that occurs happens for the lessons that can be gained. Your Earth family is just that, some souls that enabled you to be born into a human body. As souls, they are not related to you in any other sense. You may have contact with them during this single lifetime and none other.

You chose to be in this situation so that you could explore your feelings about societally imposed responsibilities, honoring yourself as a soul choosing a physical experience and dealing with various attributes such as guilt, selfishness, and issues of control.

Your mother is a manipulative, negativity-loving person. Up until this time you have tended to give in to her demands, and she is using you. Your brother and sister have not been so easy to control, which she respects and rewards by giving them what they ask for.

For almost the first time, you are questioning the entire relationship within your family and starting to see that what is demanded of you is not of any benefit to your learning process. Society tells humans that they should take care of their elders – but that is mostly so that the society does not have to be responsible. They say you are selfish and unloving if you don’t do as asked. That is a ridiculous conclusion that serves them but not you.

As you are aware, your mother does not really need your assistance. She wants it just to prove you are under her control. You have freedom of choice. You do not have to do as she requests, and there is no need to love the negative human she is portraying.

What is of greater significance in this situation is loving yourself and honoring the spiritual journey you are on. You are here to discover that you are a piece of Source energy, with all the powers and abilities that implies. Self-love comes from the acceptance and realization that the lessons you are dealing with will allow you to make the choices from which to grow in understanding and wisdom.

There is nothing wrong with ignoring her and even separating yourself from the rest of the family, as well.

QUESTION: Masters, I’m struggling with life. I think I always have. I feel like a square peg in a round hole. As I get older, I seem to isolate myself more. I’ve lost all my oomph and don’t know how to get it back. My daughter says I am naive and was born in the wrong century. Interacting with people stresses me. I was unsuccessful in the profession I trained for, self-sabotage and mental health issues didn’t help. My childhood was abusive, but I see that now as a life lesson I chose. Are you permitted to give me a hint as to my life’s purpose? Does it possibly involve the Spiritualist Church? ~Caroline, Ireland

ANSWER: Your abusive childhood formed a pattern in which you feel trapped. Your mental issues and the self-deprecating and self-sabotaging behavior have kept you from developing a sense of who you are. You still identify with that fearful, controlled child who could make no decisions for yourself.

Your purpose is to accept that you are a piece of Source energy with the powers and abilities to be all-powerful, all-magnificent, and all-creative. You are not naïve, but rather overly sensitive to the way you think other people see you. Your desire to please others to avoid being punished has shaped your entire life. You can see this in your interactions with, and avoidance of, other people.

When you were working, you were so conscious of other people and their demands that you let that direct what you were doing, even if it was not what you had been hired to do. This sabotage further complicated the way you felt about yourself, seeing only that you were unsuccessful in everything you tried.

It is time to understand yourself, who you are: a soul having a human experience and finding out ways to enjoy this life. The Spiritualist Church could be of great assistance in discovering what your journey could be like. Since you shun making decisions so as not to be responsible for anything, replacing old indecisions with religious dogma is a gentle transition.

But with this new step, don’t do anything or accept anything unless it feels like it resonates with you. If you follow certain procedures and then they become burdensome, release them and go on to something else. This is just a beginning – your training wheels, which you will not need forever.