August 27th, 2019
QUESTION: Masters I’ve always been a little detached from the family, at least I
always feel that way. But after my awakening I got further apart. I feel like
running the world, living new things, living alone but there’s always the
thought that I’m being selfish, that I’m not caring much for family
(Grandmothers, Uncles). Sometimes I think they (my family) are selfish in the
sense that they think everyone has to be around all the time hitting the
other’s life. It has bothered me so much lately; I know I can get rid of it and
create the life I want. But I want the advice of you my master and guides. What
do you have to tell me about it? ~Ju, Brazil
ANSWER: In the duality of human life,
there are differing ways to look at common actions based upon your perspective.
If you are engaging in the battle of negative and positive choices, which
freedom of choice allows, you are using society’s basic tool, which is ego. Ego
is powered by judgment and everything is either right or wrong.
The spiritual approach to life steps away from judgment and spends its
time evaluating if what you are observing is beneficial to your growth or not.
There is no judgment and no ego.
Life’s journey is carried out by each soul individually. You cannot
learn from depending on anyone else. All the choices must be your own,
completed for understanding why you have come to Earth. You owe nothing to
anyone but yourself.
As you have moved away from judgment during your awakening, you no
longer accept the judgment society used to impose upon you, such as having a
responsibility toward those related to you. This awareness is making you feel
uncomfortable because the relatives are constantly reminding you of it since
they benefit from having you fawn over them.
Part of your growth includes having confidence in your own feelings. You
should never do something just because someone else demands it. You should
always honor yourself by making your own decisions. The people are craving the
strong energy you now give off in your enlightened state and are more eager to
have you at their beck and call. The choice is yours.
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August 20th, 2019
QUESTION:
Masters I know you can’t tell me what to
do but I really need advice. My marriage has not been good for a long time. We bumble
along going through the motions but recently I have become aware that my
husband really seems to be a compulsive liar. He actually lies like a child
would. I feel like I’ve been played from the beginning. Our 30th
anniversary is soon, and I just feel depressed about it. I have lost all my
Joie de Vivre and l will admit to being scared to leave as I’m in such a rut. I
acknowledge my own part in our current circumstances, but I honestly feel that
he never really felt love for me nor I, him as we were so young and naive. ~Caroline,
Ireland
ANSWER: You both started out creating a fantasy world to your
liking. You each convinced yourself that what you had was exactly what you
thought life should be like. When your husband told you something, you heard
only what you wanted to hear, never questioning what was actually being said.
Living in your own world you couldn’t be affected by his.
Your lives have been
on parallel paths during your marriage but not on the same roadway, which has
allowed you to exist as a couple and seem to be compatible to others. Don’t
fault yourself for this predicament because it is the way a vast majority of
relationships play out. Most individuals just never become aware of the gap
between their vision and their partner’s.
Communication is the
great awareness tool, but few people impartially examine what is being said. It
is hard to justify the reality you have created for yourself if you must also
see what those around you perceive as the shared truth of the situation.
Complicating talking to one another are the emotions you bring to the mix.
At a young age,
infatuation overcomes a meeting of the minds and appears to be true love. You
both loved each other to the extent your lack of experience provided. In point
of fact, if you look back, you will see you really didn’t have that much in
common. You had no foundation upon which to build a lasting relationship, and ignoring
what you sensed about your husband is the only thing that has kept you together
this long.
It is now time to
honor yourself. What is it that would satisfy you on a daily basis? How can you
find out what your truth is, and how can you live it? You will remain in your
rut only if you choose to do so. You have used your creativity all these years;
now use it to create a life of your own, whether you remain in the marriage or
not. Forget the past – it will be an anchor preventing you from moving forward.
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August 20th, 2019
QUESTION:
Masters, I find the relationship I have
with my father very confusing. Sometimes I feel like he’s hugely controlling.
Sometimes I feel like he’s massively helping me. And because of the latter I
tend to not understand or am able to process the former. Part of me thinks he’s
a master manipulator, part of me thinks he’s just trying to be a good Dad. I’m
being very careful not to put my own emotions into this because they have gone
from love to rage with regards to him. There was a time about 10 years ago or more
when I was advancing spiritually very quickly, and it was almost as if he
sensed it and threw up such an emotional storm for me that I had to stop. With
your help I’d like to understand what I hoped to learn from my father coming
into this life. ~Steven, UK
ANSWER: You chose your father to be the center of a circular life.
Everything has revolved around him pulling you in and not allowing you to go
outside his influence without deciding to be dragged back in rather than
letting go. Family has been a part of your identity which you have given
controlling force over decision making.
Societal definitions
of the relationship and obligations a son “owes” to his father have played a
major role in your behavior. The parts you each chose are not typical. In the
incidents where he has been massively helpful, he has been a teacher, a best
friend, and a guide, not a father. He thrives on control and manipulation,
which you have believed is a part of a father’s role. However, that is not
normally the case – it is a part of his life lesson only.
When you talk about
your emotions, you are actually referring to the emerging acceptance of your
inner essence. It appears as an intuition about the choices you have if you
don’t let the father-son relationship make you think you have no choice. The
love/rage dichotomy is the positive/negative solution to a life lesson.
His reaction to your
spiritual journey reflected his fear that you would cut the bonds of his
influence in accepting your own path. Spirituality is all about oneself, why
you are here, and what you have to learn. It is a solo endeavor, and another’s
influence only prevents growth.
What you came to
learn is when you are fulfilling your own freedom of choice vs. when you are
giving it up to your father under the guise of responsibility. The journey is
yours alone.
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