Refuses to commit
QUESTION: Masters, I am a very open and spiritual person. I have been going with a man I met at a meditation group who appears to be as awake as I am. I do everything for him, on my own, before he asks. I take care of his two large dogs while he is out of town and cook him gourmet meals when he returns. I am confused because every time I ask him to commit to the relationship he belittles me, telling me I am no good, I’m too fat, etc. He has been promising to do some minor house repairs for me for two years but never seems inclined to begin. Can you shed some light on my situation?
ANSWER: To be very blunt with you, you are being toyed with and used. This man thinks that he is open and spiritual when in fact as long as he gets his way, and the world bows down to him, he easily can play the role. His ego and his belief systems of superiority, shaped by his parents, are dictating his actions.
He is absolutely fascinated with the degree of white light and spiritual energy that radiates from you. He sits and suckles from your energy as he did from the life force of his mother. He does not want anything to change. He does not want you to become an equal, such as a commitment would imply. His only defense to keep you off balance is his tongue. When pressed he goes on the offensive and blasts with everything he thinks can hurt you and throw you into inner reflection and doubt.
Because of this constant activity in your relationship you are now consistently second-guessing the actions you take and the thoughts you have. You have almost completely disregarded your intuition recently. He wants you listening only to him. He does not want the power inside you to question his motives. He has refrained from doing your repairs because he senses that is exactly what you want, and he won’t be compliant.
Go back to your strength of old. Return to honoring yourself. Pump up your power, and within this framework ask yourself to evaluate this relationship. Disregard the emotional connections and look only at the energetic ones. Then make your choice of staying or going.