Figuring out life issues
QUESTION: Masters, I have been a practicing lawyer for 24 years but left my corporate law job a year ago, promising myself a year off. All I’ve really been doing during this time is teaching at a graduate level part time (which I love), but I realize I need to get back to a job that will pay for my children’s college education. My husband and I have been estranged for some time. Despite having a Harvard MBA he has been unemployed for 8 years, just sponging off me. He has become a black energy cloud that follows us around sucking me and the children dry of all energy. Can you help me see a direction and some light at the end of the tunnel?
ANSWER: Your husband does not like to take responsibility for anything. He is very comfortable playing the spoiled little boy who doesn’t want to grow up. He envies what he sees as the carefree life of your children. In point of fact, they are more responsible and resourceful than he. As the children grow older he is getting resentful that they are pulling away from their need of him, so he is sucking on their energy.
He has always siphoned off your energy. At first it felt like a loving sharing, so you allowed it. Now that you have not been as preoccupied with your employment, you notice it for the drain it is. He does not want to leave this cushy little situation he has developed, so to change the scenario, you will have to make the decisions. Do you want to continue being a food source? Or do you want to rid yourself of this suction machine and move on?
One of your lessons in life was to become aware of the interaction between souls. Your family and teaching have provided a laboratory. Moving on will free you and clear your aura of negativity while also forcing your husband to realize what he has fallen into by way of his lifestyle. Only he can choose to change his pathway.
You have become very aware of energy cycles and the way they affect people. Your children are equally aware. Your husband sees nothing, and will continue to see and feel nothing until the present cocoon has been withdrawn from him. But nothing is right or wrong so you may choose to leave things the way they are.
Part of your learning process is accelerated whenever you work with or teach others. You sense what is needed by someone and then strive to produce it. To gather the finances for your children’s education you will either have to jump back into industry, and spend less time with them, or teach more classes. Have you ever considered teaching at one of the universities that provide free tuition for faculty members’ families?