Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters, I feel drawn to the man who is unable to commit to me, but feels attracted to me, at times I feel his love. He is distant and evasive when I talk about feelings, he does not answer. However, he is unable to give, he always takes again and again to us and then again disappears. He lives alone, he is a kung Fu sensei a very responsible person. What is his emotional effort? What is wrong with him? ~Katja, Finland

ANSWER: This man is using you because of your gentle, giving personality. You want so desperately to have a relationship that you do not see his lack of honesty and integrity. He does not know what the meaning of love is – he only knows how to take and get others to think he is fantastic. What you feel is interest, not love.

Being a Kung Fu Master means nothing if you see it only as a martial arts practice for making money and keeping other people in line. As a sensei, he feels people should obey all his requests without question. Inside, he fears others will recognize the lack of social skills that make him shy away from personal commitment. He is afraid of being vulnerable in front of others because he doesn’t think himself worthy. This is why he overreacts so strenuously in his business.

You intrigue him because you know who you are and are not afraid to let others see your triumphs but also your failings. He was abused physically and psychologically as a child. His response was to become strong enough not to have any fear of being physically bettered in the future. Psychologically, he distances himself from people so he can avoid being emotionally susceptible to harm.

He has blocked out his past and constructed a scenario where he has always been strong, feared, and untouchable. This intensifies his need to be alone, away from people who might see who he is.

He is working through the life lessons he set up for himself. He has become much more observant lately and is trying to understand how other people interact. Your purpose in his life is as an example of trusting and being totally open with someone. He is not ready yet to take this step. Have patience with him if you wish to remain in his life.

Nothing is right or wrong on your journey. You have total freedom to choose whether to stay in this situation or move on to another where you may meet someone who is ready to start a sharing relationship devoid of fear.

QUESTION: Masters, I don’t have any doubts about my sexual preferences, but since I got interested in women, I didn’t have any success attracting them, and even in talking to them. Every time I want to flirt with a woman, I feel controlled by unaccountable fear. I feel as if I really were a woman inside, sometimes I’m very sensitive and off-balance, and I’m not self-confident, but I’m working about it, discovering the love inside myself. Unfortunately I feel envious of some friends who have extreme ease it, because I feel lonely. What I really need to know is whether this fear comes from another reincarnation, or is this a contract made by myself, or even why I act emotionally like a woman. I really want to feel manly. ~Gustavo, Brazil

ANSWER: You are dealing with the life lessons you thought would be good to work through and understand in this lifetime. Self-confidence, clarity of thought, jealousy, lack of self-love, and faith in yourself were some of your choices.

You are a soul, as is everyone with whom you come in contact. Souls are energy broken off from Source, which is all that exists in the universe. Souls have no sex – they contain all the possible energy characteristics available to humans.

Society has defined for you how you think a man or a woman should behave. All societies do not have the same ideas. Your difficulty with women has nothing to do with the feminine energy that is contained in you and all other souls. There is an equal amount of masculine energy there as well. You decide which you want to bring out in any particular situation.

You are a man who has sensitivity to the emotions of others. To some this is a feminine trait; to others it is a distinctive aspect of loving and embracing another. In your society, men are considered to be men if they are uncaring and macho. If you wish to give up the wonderful ability to feel others, you can, but why would you do that just so you can fit in with brisk, uncaring men?

The jealousy that you wanted to explore comes up any time you think another has an easier time with life than you do. This is called “mirroring.” You are seeing them as perfect and yourself as deficient. All people being from the same point of origin have the same potential and abilities. You just need to accept that you are the same and let that control your fear. You can be as they are.

Using the same belief, that you are the same as everyone else, you can build your confidence up to the level you see in others. Your thoughts are sabotaging your manifestation of a companion. You don’t think you are good enough, so the universe responds by saying okay, let him remain alone because that is what he is saying about himself.

QUESTION: Masters, you have been very helpful to me before and I wonder if I might trouble you again? My Dad is at Home and I miss him. I speak to him a lot but rarely, if ever, feel his presence. I’ve asked my guides for dreams of him that I can remember but nothing has happened. I suspect this is a failing on my part. Maybe I’m too needy or in dubious mental health. Will you be able to give me the piece of evidence that I seek? I don’t understand why the twice I’ve sought this information, the answer hasn’t come through. And if you can’t do this, please tell him I love him. ~Karen, UK

ANSWER: Souls who have left their bodies and are on the Other Side are aware of what you say and think. Your father is aware of your distress and also of your love for him. Tell him what you want to convey and he will know.

You will have to work on the other side of this communication – the receiving of his energy. If there is any failing on your part, it is that you have such specific expectations of how and what you think your father should be able to do. You have to examine just what you will consider to be “proof.”

Once the soul returns Home, it takes its energetic form. Energy is nonphysical, and not all living physical beings are sensitive enough to feel the contact from a soul in energetic form. If you have a preconceived idea that your contact will be as physical as it always has been, you are looking for an impossibility.

In asking your guides for dreams of him, what do you really want? You can recall, on your own, Earth moments with him and have them portrayed in three-dimensional form. You can reach out to him and have him trigger both past and present situations between the two of you. But this will not feel as if he is in the same room with you because he is only energy and would be projecting an image, not taking physical form.

You are needy right now because you still wish to have him a part of the physical existence that is your life. One of your lessons was to work through this period after he returned Home and to find the strength to move on.

Have patience with yourself. Let the connection come when you are ready to accept the form that is possible. Your evidence will not be physical, but you will feel it in your heart.