Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters, I have a friend who I agreed to let stay with me for 3 or 4 months while she was going through a tough family situation and trying to figure out the next direction in life/work. It has been a little over a year and she has not made any progress in getting steady work and moving out on her own. I value her friendship, but I feel like I have been more than understanding. Since she moved in my energy is always drained, I get angry, and I just feel numb, unhappy, and distracted from my work. I have encouraged her to pursue leads to no avail, told her of my unhappiness, and hinted that I want to move. Why do I feel this way? Why will she not move out and how do I get her to move out without damaging the friendship? ~Jenny, USA

ANSWER: Just what does a friendship mean to you? Does it mean that you have to do whatever your “friend” wants you to do, regardless of how it is affecting your life, so that you can still count her among your friends? To be successful, a relationship must go both ways. You get something for whatever you contribute. You share thoughts, ideas, ambitions. You get so close that you don’t even have to tell the other person what you are thinking because they are so tuned into you  they even know what you are thinking. That is a true friendship.

Your friend had family problems because she only cares about herself. She does not want to have to take responsibility for her life—no job, no answering to anyone but herself. She is letting you take care of her, even down to the fact that she steals energy from you like a vampire, and the result is that you are always tired and irritable when she is around. If you want to return to your regular sense of self you have got to pull the plug on her.

Stop letting her take advantage of you. Anything you do to get her to change the way she is operating will have an effect upon your friendship because her definition of friendship is synonymous with slavery. It is all right to spend your existence as the servant of another if you are getting reimbursed, but what are you getting here? Use the principle of “tough love” and toss her out. You will be helping her to see it is time to grow up and be an adult.

Value yourself as much as you think you are valuing this friendship. Start taking care of yourself; honor yourself for the fantastic person you are. Don’t give up your power to determine your lifestyle to someone who should be a guest but has become a parasite. It is time to fumigate.

QUESTION: Masters, I am wondering what is the meaning of dreams about your soulmate? When I met this guy five years ago, I started to have dreams about him all the time. That’s how I fell in love with him. He always used to talk about love in my dreams. I still have dreams about him. We became very close friends over the time. We wanted to be together but we were both afraid—and we also had huge ego problems, big time. I just knew from the day one I met him, that he is my soulmate, but these dreams (with him always talking about love towards me), I just don’t get it. Are those dreams reality? Can they be reality? ~Maya, Canada

ANSWER: You are infatuated with the idea of a torrid and sensual love affair. You desperately want to be loved and passionately courted. Your dreams have taken the scenarios from movies you have seen and books you have read and turned them into nighttime entertainment. Your egos are trying to control one another’s actions.

This is not reality; this is a fixation. He is not a soulmate. He says to you in your dreams exactly what you want to hear because you are writing his lines for him. Most people choose some famous person to be their dream lover, but you are intimidated by well-known people and took this obscure man because you convinced yourself he was a soulmate and therefore someone you were entitled to have as a lover. Stop living in a fantasy world!

You have plenty of time to redirect all the energy you have put into this believe life and begin an actual relationship with someone. Go to places where you can meet new people and find some common interests. Establish a relationship based upon sharing yourself with a real person while you are awake. Your dream world has been enjoyable but it is time to move on.

QUESTION: Masters, I’ve noticed something interesting. Why is it that whenever I want to achieve my dreams, and I’m so close that all I have to do is to reach out and grab it, there is always something else that is close to my ultimate dream comes to distract me from my current dream? It’s difficult to put this into words but I hope you will be able to sense my energy! ~Hui Jeng, Singapore

ANSWER: You have terrific powers of manifestation; unfortunately you get so involved in what you think you want, that you can’t see the other possibilities that exist. Your guides cannot tell you that something more fulfilling or enlightening exists than whatever you have been investing all your time and effort into producing, so they have the alternative appear at the same time as your expected result. This is to show you there are choices to enrich your life and not just one direction.

Instead of expectations of a particular result, start projecting a basic goal or destination. During your journey, have your eyes open to see if, as you become more aware of your abilities, it would be better to alter your destination. You see a change from your programmed goal to be a distraction; we see it as giving you the freedom to decide that something else might be even better than you imagined when you began the journey.

Go with the flow of the universe. This will allow you to be in tune with whatever you elected to do during this lifetime. Make life easier on yourself. Let the return of your projected energy (your manifestation) come to you without effort. Some aspects of life can be very easy if you don’t fight them each step of the way.