Am I good enough?
Friday, December 28th, 2007Q. Masters, I have just become engaged to the most wonderful man in the world. We have been dating for fourteen months and are extremely compatible, sharing the same belief systems and love of life. When I think of him I seem to float on air—but I fear that I am not good enough for him and that he will tire of me after we are married. He seems to be placing me upon a pedestal right now. What should I do so that I will not disappoint him?
A. Put your fears away. During the time that you have been together with your fiancé you have been very open with him about your beliefs and desires—as he has been with you. In your past experiences with men you would say or do anything that you thought was needed to get your date to like you. You were never true to yourself and your feelings. You are now in a relationship based upon truth: the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
Your fiancé knows the true you. He was not blindfolded or handicapped when he got to know you and made a decision about his love for you. You are what he wants, so don’t sabotage that budding relationship by selling yourself short. The same self doubt that made you lie to previous men is rearing its ugly head trying to give you doubts about your worth.
He has placed you upon a pedestal because, in his mind, there is no one else for him but you. You are the trophy he desires. Continue to be truthful, to believe in yourself, and you will not disappoint him. Enjoy your married life.
